I need help- a check in

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Registered: 11-20-2006
I need help- a check in
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Tue, 12-05-2006 - 1:11pm
Hi Everyone,
I guess everything is going as well as expected. We got in a another big argument last night,but my mother needs a little help. While we were having this big fight some information came to the surface that I did not know. He admitted to hitting his own mother. I told him that was abuse all he said is that she deserved it. I even lost the apartment I had so now I am officially living with him. Before I was still paying rent so technically I wasn't officially moved in.Now I do not I have my own place any more.I have myself and my parents,but I have lost everythings else because of the man. My daugther is live an other couple they have quardianship over and I don't get to see her and now I lost the only safe place that was mine. He is an expert on threats so that I stay stuck with no way out. I dont see my parents as much as I used to. Thanks for letting me vent.
Cindy
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Registered: 12-16-1997
Tue, 12-05-2006 - 2:13pm

Although you're in a really tough situation, you still have a way out.

When you get tired of his threats and other assorted forms of abuse (and for your sake, I hope it's sooner than later), please seek help from a women's shelter. I don't know how much help they'll be able to provide you, but at least it's a start.

If it were me, I'd go to a women's shelter that's not in your local area. This should make it a little harder for him to find you.

God bless.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-19-2006
Tue, 12-05-2006 - 2:34pm

Hi Cindy,

First of all, his mother didn't deserve to be hit!!! NOBODY deserves to be hit! He is making excuses. He is blaming his mother. He is not taking any responsibility!

How far away do your parents live? Can you move there and stay with them to get away from him? I'm sorry to hear that you lost your apartment. Do you think you could try and find another one...?

Big HUGS to you
Lauren :o)

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Registered: 10-21-2006
Tue, 12-05-2006 - 9:48pm

I'm very sorry you can't be with your daughter right now. Hang in there. My H is also an expert at threats, threatened for years to take the home from my children whenever he was mad at me. Threatened divorce, finding "it" elsewhere, burying me in the back yard, taking the kids, taking the van, cutting me off from the computer, he shut off our long distance, all my family is long distance. I know about threats. Yours may be different, or the same.

Have you contacted your local DV shelter? If it's just you, and your trying to get DD back, they can help you fill out applications and find whatever resources that are available to you. Can you stay with your friend that offered to help? Even if just to get away from him abusing you?

I'm praying for you and DD! All the best for you both!

Carrie