Should I feel bad?
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| Tue, 12-12-2006 - 8:07am |
Hi ladies, hope and pray your all safe and well.
Yestesday H came to my door with a headboard for my 15 year old daughter and wanted to come in to see his girls, I said No, he asked why, DUH!!!! I finally got pissed off enough and told him that visitations will be held at the DSS office so that he would have no reason to come to my house and wait for a letter from them. I don't know if I should have told him, but he pushes and pushes so much I had too. I closed the door and he left.
He hasn't called :) He says to me that our problems are because he has no money and that he's always help me, yeah right! That I won't be able to find anyone that wants a woman at 40 years old with 3 kids. Saying really nasty things. He asked please don't get the girls involved in DSS, they are already involved because of his violence.
That it's me hurting the girls, that i am doing them so much harm, by keeping them away from him. I don't think so I think this is the best thing I can do for them, at least there's peace, we can be home without feeling like were walking on eggshells.
Sometimes I wonder does he know what he does? Does he know what he says? I feel bad I know I shocked him last nite with the news of the visits.
I really feel in my heart that it's the best thing for all of us.
Lisa

Hang in there. You know in your heart what's best for you and the girls. What's so bad a bout DSS being involved? You'll have the satisfaction of knowing the girls are safe. How is he with them? Would he mess with their heads? You nad your daughters are in my prayers.
Take care,
Carrie
Thanks Carrie,
He does try to mess with their heads, always saying it's your mom who doesn't want me here, it's your mom this and that, that's another reason I think it's good he's not here anymore. DSS has helped me alot. Your also in my prayers!
Take care,
Lisa
P.S.
Wish me luck guys, job interview today
Best of luck on your interview today! Let us know how it goes!
Carrie
You did the right thing. You had to tell him, because if you didn't tell him he probably wouldn't have left. Good job for standing up again... you are on a roll! You go girl :o)
"He says to me that our problems are because he has no money and that he's always help me, yeah right!" ** That is a LIE!! The problems is HIM. He is the problem here! He is abusive and he is the problem. They problems aren't becuase he has no money or that he tries to help you...... he is making more and more excuses!
"That I won't be able to find anyone that wants a woman at 40 years old with 3 kids." **He is still verbally and emotionally abusing you. When did he tell you this? He will keep telling you all of this BS if you still talk to him and see you. It will never end. They are always right, they are never in the wrong, and he is going to continually hurt you over and over and over.............
You know what, don't believe anything that comes out of his mouth! I am serious. All he says is BS and Lies to put you down. It makes him feel better about himself to put you through so much pain. All he wants is to hurt you.... don't believe anything he says...
"I really feel in my heart that it's the best thing for all of us."
***Yes, you are doing the VERY BEST THING for you and your girls. The very best and don't change what you are doing for anyone, especially for that nasty man.
Lauren