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| Fri, 12-15-2006 - 9:25am |
Hi ladies,
hope your all safe and sound. H just called and asked what about the presents for the girls, when can WE go shopping I said to him you can go yourself, get whatever you want, they'll be happy.
Then he mentions the so-called car in R.I. he asked me again to go with him, I said NO, if you want me to have it, bring it yourself, but I am not going anywhere!!! I was nice about it. He asked if he can take the girls for a while tomorrow, I think I will let him take them.
I even hate hearing his voice on the phone. Don't know why I'm feeling kinda down today, like sad, so many finacial problems,looking for work, not enough money for anything. I really feel blah, today! Knowing, he's loving the fact, I have no money.
Lisa
P.S. As I was hanging-up with him, I said I have to go, i'm going out and he said "where are you going to work" and i could like feel his ugly smirk, he said it in such an ugly manner, I just hung-up.
Lisa

Good for you! He can go shopping on his own, and he can get the car himself. Do you expect any problems with him taking the girls? I know you had mentioned him having supervised visits?
About money, remember you can go back to the food cupboard. Also have you looked into getting help for Christmas gifts? DSS usually collects gifts for families. You wouldn't have to rely on him incase he pulls anything about Christmas shopping. It'll get better, you're looking for work and that's all you can do
About him, who cares! It's quite sad if he loves to see you and the girls struggling. Prove him wrong and try to have a good day. It might take time but it will all work out.
Best wishes and prayers for you!
Carrie
Hey Carrie,
how are you??? I am trying to keep positive, but it's hard. DSS has given me few gifts for christmas for the girls, if he wants to buy them gifts fine, if not fine! On the visits, I'll be honest with you, I don't know what to do? I have to go to probate court for custody, I'll be doing that this week coming.
I just came back from the welfare office and they helped me with my resume, and my worker is going to help me all she can to find a job, she's really a great person. Guess, it's just one day at a time.
Lisa
Hey Lisa,
DO NOT go shopping with him. He is seeing that you are becoming stronger and stronger and he is still trying to get you to fall down so he can pick you up. You are doing great. You are standing up for yourself and he sees that. That is why he keeps asking you, to see how strong you are. He might keep trying harder and harder because he sees that you no longer need him and he doesn't like that.
Is he allowed to take them? I thought he had to go thru someone or see the girls at an office? I say DO NOT let him take the girls if it is stated in the RO.
Lauren
Hey Lauren,
Why do I feel so bad if I'm getting stronger? I feel like I'm never going to make it.(won't tell him that) the order of the court, and probation says he is to have NO contact with me at all, doesn't say he can't see the girls. This why I have to go to probate court next week, to get custody, my DSS worker says to me that custody is to whoever has the girls at the time. That if he was to take them and not return them, the police wouldn't do anything. He is scared of getting arrested again, and with everything that's going on with immigration, he is petrified, he's undocumented. I truly believe he wouldn't be that stupid to try anything with the girls.
I am just so confused, and scared of being on my own, isn't that silly.
Lisa
I am so emotional today, H has been on my mind. I do miss him, isn't that sick! I'm going to take a long hot shower and watch LTMN, or better yet HGTV.
Lisa
Lisa,
I'm doing really good the past few days, thanks for asking!
You're right, it's one day at a time for now. But when you look forward, you'll get to where you're independent. I'm glad you've got some help with your resume and job search, I know I'll be going to workforce development in the near future. They offer the same assistance in looking for work.
I'd reccomend keeping the girls with you until custody/visitation is established. Just cause I worry, always will. I think you mentioned he played some head games with them? If so, he's probably more desperate now than ever cause you're holding your ground. I didn't think H would bring the kids into this, but now he's seeking custody cause nothing else has worked. Mind you, I've been home with those kids from day one! I wouldn't take the chance.
Best of luck and prayers for you and your girls!
Carrie
It's not sick that you miss him. Please remember he's been generous because he has to be, you've stood up to him. He will go back to who he really is! The holidays are difficult. I've got 3 b-days on top of Christmas this month, it's been harder than heck to not give in. You can do this Lisa! You deserve so much better!
Take care,
Carrie