Waiting to be served

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Registered: 10-21-2006
Waiting to be served
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Mon, 12-18-2006 - 2:24pm

I should be getting served this week. Crazy story about that. I had a brief conversation with physically abusive X's wife. It came up because she had mentioned that X had her up against the wall by her neck, she had left for awhile, went back, now they go to counseling. I'm staying out of their problems! Our kids only go there once every month-month 1/2. I figured they should probably know, incase there were any problems with the kids. He tells me "Call if you need anything". It took a R/O, and criminal court, years to get away, like I'd call him!

As for H and I, I made the mistake of talking to him. I caught myself and left the room but he came out in the living room shortly after and asked if I had a BF. He just kept coming in and out of the room with something different every time. Crying once, raising his voice the next, calm, than the last time he sat close to me and wanted to talk but I told him he couldn't talk right now and he stood up, leaned over and kissed the top of my head and said he loved me. I was so uncomfortable, but I felt bad too cause I know what it's like to be rejected and I don't want anyone to feel that. I wonder why I feel bad at all. One of his comments was that he wanted to get this done as quickly as possible cause he had needs too. I'm sure you know what he meant! I just want this to be over, and moving forward a little faster. There were other little things over the weekend, that was the worst of it.

I did do a budget, without even counting on spousal support and with a little less child support than I actually plan on. For necessities, I have enough. Also I'll have some to set aside, from equity in the house and stuff. The lawyer can work that out. None of this is so important that I'm going to get stressed out about it. I've had enough of that.

Thanks for reading! Please keep us in your prayers, this isn't over yet.

Carrie

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Registered: 05-19-2006
Tue, 12-19-2006 - 5:48pm

Hi Carrie,

Why did your Ex ask if you have a boyfriend? Is he jealous and always asks you a million questions about men or your past with men or whatever. I'm sorry that he probably took you on a big rollercoaster ride the other night.. when he came in the room again and again and kept bringing up differnt things.

You feel bad, because you are human and you have feelings. It is normal to be feeling the way you are feeling. I do think that all abusers do love, and feel love, but they way they do it in the abusive way. Their perception of love is backwards and wrong.. but I do think that they do love. Sorry, I can't explain it very well.

(((HUGS)))
Lauren

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