Merry Christmas to all!

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Registered: 11-25-2006
Merry Christmas to all!
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Tue, 12-19-2006 - 4:48pm

Hi ladies, I pray your all safe and well. Carrie, it'll work out soon your in my prayers.
I went on a date, a coffe date, we just talked and laughed, had a nice time, and that was that.
I'm not looking to get involved, actually feel good being just me and my girls. H called today asking again for me to go with him christmas shopping, again I said NO, you can go alone. He ask why can't I see him, what am I hiding? Why can't he come in the house? Why do I never answer the phone, he says "I know your home I can see the lights in your bedroom, who do you have in there?? F______ jerk, HELLOOOOOOOOO! Is he sick or what? Then he ends the call with "you have no idea, how much I love you".
Am I wrong in just hanging up on him, he talking all this BS, sometimes I really think he has some real mental issues, one minute he's sweet, then the next second he's sick. I can't go back to that life, it's not in me, can't do it anymore.
He's out, thank god!
Two days ago he called me a dog, today he loves me so much, SICK,SICK,SICK!

Just wanted to vent

Lisa

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Registered: 05-19-2006
Tue, 12-19-2006 - 5:10pm

Merry Christmas to you as well Lisa!!

That is what abusers do. They call us a a bitch or wh*re and then they say they love us and can't live without us. That is just the way abusers are and they won't change!! That would be the rollcoaster, making us feel crazy, everything gets twisted around.

"He ask why can't I see him, what am I hiding? Why can't he come in the house? Why do I never answer the phone, he says "I know your home I can see the lights in your bedroom, who do you have in there??"
*** No matter what you tell him, he won't believe you...so don't even answer any of those questions. If you say you aren't hiding anything he will call you a lier.. if you tell him you have a guy friend in there he will go ballistic!!! Don't say anything to him and don't answer those questions, because it really won't matter what you say to him. They never believe us anyways!!!!!

Your abusers is sick... just like all the other abusers out there!! yes, that is what they do. Get all pissy and then say "you have no idea, how much I love you". Barf Me!! I went thry that all the time. My abuser was going to fall into a big black whole and get involved with drugs again, etc, etc... he tried everything to get me to stay.. but it didn't work.. and you know what. He is fine, he didn't fall in a big black hole, he didn't kill himself, nothing.... all they are ... is threats!! To try and make us feel guilty and for us to stay with them so they can continue to abuse.

One time, my abuser and I decided to have sex, after I left (I know very stupid, but oh well) it was great, exactly what I needed at the time... after that I said we couldn't work it out.. he then calls me dirty and nasty.. Like what the hell is wrong with you? You are the one that wanted to have sex too!!! He could have said no!!??? GOD he made me so mad that day! Like it was ALL MY FAULT!! AHHHH.. haha.. sorry for the vent

Lauren

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Wed, 12-20-2006 - 12:44am
Hi - I have not had internet for days and days and days - but glad to see you are still here. Merry Christmas to you and your girls too!