Oh, My God!!!!

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Registered: 11-25-2006
Oh, My God!!!!
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Tue, 12-26-2006 - 9:18pm

Hi ladies,
I knew nothing good was going to happen today. Numbnut(H)started with as you guys know that he's calling DSS and wanting to see the girls, kept calling nonstop. I couldn't take it anymore and I called my DSS worker myself and told her what was going on, she said give him, her # and she would tell him that we can arrange visits anytime, it's not a problem. Well,she didn't call me right back, but I knew what she was going to say, he calls me and says that SHE told him he can come here anytime he wants to see the girls. He was laughing as he said it. I said "fine, come over" he knocked on the door and I called the police and he took off like a bat out of hell! I am going to court tomorrow to get a RO, because what I had was his probation order "stating no contact with victim" so the police officer has a report at the station waiting for me, and then I go get the order.
I gave the police his cell # and the officer got in touch with him, and told him not to come to my house again or call, and that i am going to court tomorrow to get the RO.
I am proud of me!!!!! I don't know what will happen to him tomorrow, but I am not turning back, if he goes to jail tomorrow that's his problem, not mine. I also have all the phone messages and i am not leaving the court until an advocate who speaks spanish hears all of them. I have not heard from him again, no hangups,no wrong numbers, nothing! I wonder if he got the message. I know that he's going to be there at court and that he will proberly deny everything and make me like I'm the bad one, hope luck is on my side tomorrow, he's so convincing, you would think he was the most decent person in the world. I am kinda scared.
Sorry for posting soooooooooooooooooo long,

Lisa

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Registered: 04-21-2003
Wed, 12-27-2006 - 12:03am
Lots of luck tomorrow and keep us posted what happens. Great job on going to the police!!!
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Registered: 10-21-2006
Wed, 12-27-2006 - 2:45pm

Sorry, I responded to your last post before reading this one. Good for you and for keeping you and the girls safe! You need to be protected from him and this will give you some time to do some thinking for yourself w/o him constantly getting you to doubt yourself. I really admire you for calling, I wish I'd have found the strength to do that before it came to this. H told me when we 1st moved in together he had a big back yard and knew where he'd bury me. That was 7 1/2 yrs ago, pretty powerful effect on me though, I'll never forget it.

Lots of hugs Lisa!

Carrie