What do I do?

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Registered: 11-25-2006
What do I do?
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Fri, 12-29-2006 - 4:33pm

I wonder if I should call him and ask what can we do to save this pathetic relationship, maybe it would be better to just accept it, he's always going to have the upper hand. I'm crying again.

Lisa

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Registered: 09-01-2006
Fri, 12-29-2006 - 4:43pm
Hey, I'm kind of new here but saw your posts. I don't think you should call him. Things will get better for you. I know it's hard now, but when you look back on this, you will be so proud that you got through this. You are a strong woman because you were strong enough to take that 1st step( which I haven't yet). Keep your head up. Maybe you can catch a movie with an old friend or something to keep you occupied. Take care.
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Registered: 11-25-2006
Fri, 12-29-2006 - 4:52pm

Thanks, I was thinking LifeTime movie tonite, you will also make that first move. Praying for you :)

Lisa

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Registered: 10-21-2006
Fri, 12-29-2006 - 11:11pm

Lisa, you've been so strong! He wants to intimidate you. Cause of you already going to court and sharing your experiences, and everyone else that does share here, I finally made the decision to get H out of the house! Please don't buy into his intimidation.

You and I are alone w/ our kids tonight. Sheriffs served H R/O, and we go back on Tues. It's crazy, I'm alone, but wondering if he'll show up. I've been thinking of you a lot today. Cause I had the whole court crud to deal w/. You've come so far from being hit, than controlled through verbal abuse and threats. You'll have freedom someday, don't give up now. I can't imagine how hard it's been to get to where you are. But, you have come along way!

He wont always have the upper hand. He's probably freaking out cause he realizes you do have control over your life, not him. Your daughters know you are seeing this through, keep it up!

I asked God for help today, many times and got through the day. Saying a prayer for you and DD's too. Hang in there!

Carrie

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Registered: 11-25-2006
Sat, 12-30-2006 - 11:51am

Hey Carrie,
how are you? I am so proud of you. Your a great woman and super mom, keep up the good work. I think of you alot also.
I just can't believe all this it feels like I'm in a lifetime movie, it's wierd. I agree with you I think he is also freaking out, because there's only so much his PO can do, and if I call the police again, it's trouble. He hasn't called and no hang-ups. I know that's good, but it's also nerve racking. what are you doing for New Years eve? I'll be home with my girls and praying that is going to be great year for me and all of my new friends here on the village.
I have jobnet on tuesday, through the dept of transitional assistance they are going to help me find a job and then at 1 pm I meet a DV advocate. Carrie, what does a DV advocate do?
I'm glad your H is OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That was great news!

Lisa