Lundy Bancroft book......wow!

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Registered: 09-01-2006
Lundy Bancroft book......wow!
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Thu, 01-04-2007 - 11:28am

I just want to thank all of you who kept mentioning this book. It is an absolute godsend for anyone who is on this board!

Sex is the biggest issue that sets STBX off. I read the chapter on sex and I was blown away. It was a total account of our relationship. That book is so dead on that it actually scares me. Everytime I come to realize that I, ME, not someone else but ME, I married an abusive man it just blows my mind. I am amazed that he is an abuser. I am amazed that I didn't realize it until it was pointed out to me..... a few times! I am just so glad that my eyes are wide open now.

We have separated now and he is living with a mutual friend. I know he is hoping to repair things but I know I just want out. I have to be careful how I handle this as I do think it is best if he feels he is still in control. I just want out NOW!

On the outside he looks like a total package deal, attractive, great physical condition, very successful, good time Charlie. I am hoping someone jumps on that bandwagon quickly to provide the necessary distraction I need to get this house sold, divide everything up and move on.

Phew.... anyone who hasn't yet read the book, please go to your library and pick it up....there is at least one, if not numerous, chapters in there for everyone on this board. It will show you that this is not your fault.....

Rose

Rosecolouredspecs
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Registered: 05-19-2006
Thu, 01-04-2007 - 2:58pm

I'm so glad you like it!! It does deserve a WOW!! Everything is dead on and it was scarey to me too. I read it once and am reading it again - and am catching things I missed the first time around. The creepy thing that I read was all the early warning signs. Almost all the points on there, my abuser had....

Lauren

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Registered: 11-15-2006
Thu, 01-04-2007 - 7:10pm
Glad you got it!!! it's so incredible "right-on"-I keep reading it when I doubt myself or feel tempted to let her in...
Beth