Previous post on H and W knowing details

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Registered: 11-26-2003
Previous post on H and W knowing details
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Mon, 12-15-2003 - 4:12pm
To everyone who warmly responded to my previous post regarding my H and his W knowing all the details of my affair.

Thank you, thank you, thank you, especially to cl-noregretsever.... you the man! I believe all the advice you gave me in your post about my coming clean on my A, my responsibility (or lack thereof) regarding my H's suicide attempts, moving on with my life, and me being the XMM's "cake" from "having his cake and eating it too"! If you have seen my current posts today I think I am actually moving in the right direction. I'm feeling positive and actually looking forward to some events that I have planned over the holiday season. More smiles than tears right now!!

To LostIt.... you are great.... great advice, wise wisdom, and a big heart. I had taken a few days off the board over the weekend as my girls were spending a few days with their dad and i was trying to do some serious soul searching so i wasn't up to date on anybody's responses, and I think i have really done some great introspective thinking.

Again, thank you to everyone.... you are in my thoughts and prayers.

CG

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 12-16-2003 - 2:39pm

Hi CG.....thanks for the compliment......yes I did read your posts and you certainly are moving forward...


As has been already said: YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


The momentum you've created for yourself will certainly help in the months ahead in your divorce. Since your stbxh is suicidal, I think you'll have no problem gaining custody of your children, regardless of the affair and it's disclosure in court.


During my divorce ex-w's lawyer tried to make a big deal of the affair and the judge told him that unless he could prove that my OW mother of four was an unfit drug addict or alcoholic mother that my involvement in the affair would have absolutely no effect on custody discussions...afterwhich the judge further commented that he'd not seen any mother of 4 lately that filled that description and didn't expect to in the near future. My attorney at the time told me it was the judge's way of politely telling the other lawyer to shut up and welcome to the new millenium........


Anyway, whether or not xMM leaves you a voice mail, YOU are finished and YOU already have closure.


Good luck going forward......


cl-nre

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Registered: 10-22-2003
Thu, 12-18-2003 - 12:07pm
CG,

Thank you. You are tough. Remember that. You HAVE WHAT IT TAKES to make a new and better life for yourself. I am proud of you. Please stay in touch. Let me know how you are doing.

Lostit

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Registered: 10-12-2003
Sat, 12-20-2003 - 2:14am
CG glad to hear you are doing good. You have had to deal with some pretty hard issues that make me feel stupid for even being upset over my petty problems. I want to continue to hear updates a continue supporting you.

Cali~