nc makes all the difference in the world

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-10-2003
nc makes all the difference in the world
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Tue, 12-16-2003 - 8:11pm
a couple of wks ago, i rec'd an email from XMM (this is the 3rd that i haven't replied to) congratulating me on passing the bar. for some reason today (maybe b/c today marks 10 wks of NC), i wanted to email him.

but i can't email him b/c i don't have access to the email acct that he has the address for (i told my friend to change the passwd so that i don't send him an email in a moment of weakness). and while i don't want him to have my new personal email address, i started to write an email from my new email acct (can you believe that? after all the trouble i went through notifying everyone of my new address!)

...almost hit send....

you know what stopped me? the thought of resetting NC. no way. no how. i'm at 10 wks. not a snow ball's chance in hell am i going to give that up. if i did, i wouldn't hit the 10 wk mark again until nearly march of NEXT yr. nope. not gonna do it.

see, nc does work.

and after typing up this little note, i'm no longer tempted to email him. besides, it wouldn't solve my own personal issues anyhow. in fact, it would exacerbate them. ah, thank gawd for this board and all the people on it!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-16-2003 - 10:25pm

Way to go!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-04-2003
Sun, 12-28-2003 - 9:25pm
sambagita! Congratulations on passing the bar!! and for not pressing send! i guess if you are at 10 weeks, so am i--although it's more like 12 weeks now. NC does work!! i rarely check the board now, but so glad to hear you are doing well! i just had date#6 with a great guy who has NEVER been married--and i can tell you it is so nice to be in a relationship that has the potential to GO somewhere!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-31-2003
Mon, 01-05-2004 - 12:35pm
Wow! Congratulations to you and Gita!

You're inspiring!

I only just decided NC. I'm just not sure if it is better to cut him off cold turkey, or should I communicate something to him. How did you initiate your NC with your XMMs?

Thanks!!