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| Wed, 12-17-2003 - 2:37pm |
Received an email from MM today. The subject said: Do not delete-please read.
I should have deleted it. In it he said, "I'm sure you feel better by ending things, but it ended after we met in the hotel room. You see for me, it was all about the hunt. Guys don't need "friends" we have buddies we golf with, drink with, play cards with. Women serve one or two purposes, to have our kids, clean our houses, and for sex. Women outside of marriage are for hunting. Once they are bagged, the hunt is over and we move on. Our wives are too focused on being the perfect little wife to no whats going on. So we have the best of both worlds. Merry Christmas"
Yes, it was a spitful email, but it hurt like hell. I believe all the lies, how could I have been SO stupid? I must have been from seeking outside of marriage I didn't have; friendship and love.
Feeling like life isn't so grand about now.

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What a d&%K!
MAN oh man...
Really, nothing to mourn over now is there.
Yeah I'm sure that hurt your self respect a little BUT. You can be assured you didn't miss out on the great love of your life!
He obviously wasn't worth any of the time you gave him. How long was the EMA?
My XMM once asked me when we were about to part for the last time if I wanted him to say something to piss me off so I could hate him and move on. What the hell does that mean? Is he going to say garbabge he really thinks or does he really think that's a good way to deal with problems? I don't know.
All I can say is that yourXMM used you to lift himself up. He obviously feels like "the man" because he fooled you and his wife. The sad part is... he'll be an old man someday who no one will have time for because he's got nothing that matters. No heart, no soul and no one to tear down to build himself up.
I'm so sorry you had to get that letter... But, I know you will recover from this.. I know your not going to let that JERK take up one more precious moment of your time.
Being fooled happens to the best of us girlie... It's just not to many of us that get verifiable evidence that he was what we suspected.
I would print out that e-mail and burn it.
BIG HUGS!!! KATJA
After that, he started to become less and less available. Make dinner reservations and cancel, be "out of town" for a week and no word from him. Once he called me on a weekend when I was out shopping and said "I didn't see you last week and I will be gone this coming week. Can we meet for coffee, I miss you desparately." So I foolishly thought we had something good.
Foolish me.
You're right, at least he wasn't the love of my life.
Hang in there....
Your all the better for it.
I think we all need to make a resolution for 2004... No more jackasses...
Thanks for sharing... I hope you know your not alone.
Chin-up!
Katja
We live an learn.
Hang in there, and hang around....
~Love
Welcome to the board.
As a male I find your xMM's comments extremely offensive, yet in the context of a lot of comments from the women on this board, not that unusual. Somewhat more direct and surprisingly candid, perhaps, yet not at all out of the ordinary. I find it sad that there really are men out there that believe in "the hunt" as your xMM so succintly put it, rather than believing in the nurturing aspects of relationships with women as I found.
I'm pleased to read that you ended you relationship after only a few months' time rather than wasting years with such an insensitive jerk.
Here's to the next nice guy you meet; may he be single, kind, honest and respectful seeking a mutually supportive relationship with you as a way of life.......
jmhoo,
cl-nre
Here's the words to that LeAnn Rimes song i was referring to & i'm sure many of you will relate to this one.
Life goes on, life goes on, life goes on...
You sucked me in and played my mind
Just like a toy you would crank and wind
Baby, I would give til you wore it out
You left me lying in a pool of doubt
If you're still thinkin' you're the Daddy Mac
You should've known better but you didn't and I can't go back
Oooh, life goes on, and its only gonna make me strong
Its a fact, once you get on board say goodbye cuz you can't go back
Oooh, its a fight, and I really wanna get it right
Where I'm at, is my life before me, Got this feeling that I can't go back
Life goes on, life goes on, life goes on...
Wish I knew then what I know now
You held all the cards and sold me out
Baby, shame on you if you fooled me once,
Shame on me if you fooled me twice
You've been a pretty hard case to crack
I should've known better but I didn't and I can't go back
Oooh, life goes on, and its only gonna make me strong
Its a fact, once you get on board say goodbye cuz you can't go back
Oooh, its a fight, and I really wanna get it right
Where I'm at, is my life before me, Got this feeling that I can't go back
Na na na na na life goes on, na na na na na made me strong
Got a feeling and I can't go back
Life goes on (and its only gonna make me strong)
Life goes onn and on and on
Shame on you if you fooled me once,
Shame on me if you fooled me twice
You've been a pretty hard case to crack
I should've known better but I didn't and I can't go back
Oooh, life goes on, and its only gonna make me strong
Its a fact, once you get on board say goodbye cuz you can't go back
Oooh, its a fight, and I really wanna get it right
Where I'm at, is my life before me, Got this feeling that I can't go back
Na na na na na life goes on, na na na na na made me strong
Whoa, yeah
Got a feeling and I can't go back...
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