2 weeks NC

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Registered: 08-11-2003
2 weeks NC
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Fri, 12-19-2003 - 2:53pm
Well it will be 2 weeks tomorrow of no physiacl CN and it is hard.I think I'm doing ok though.He wants to meet a couple days next week before and after the holiday but I said I couldn't because I will be spending time with my h and kids he said just for a couple of hours but I still stuck to my words.I'm really trying hard here ladies and I'm hurting alot over it.He can't seem to let go of what we had and it really doesn't help.I'm hoping that the 14 days I have of NC at all will help me out.I'm off work after next Tuesday untill the 7th.Does it get any easier?Getting in the holiday spirit hasn't been to easy.H has really been good to me and the guilt is really hard to carry also.Well I hope everyone has a nice Christmas and that everyone is happy and in good spirits.
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Registered: 04-02-2003
In reply to: carebear627
Sat, 12-20-2003 - 9:29am
He cant let go of the past and it is making it harder? Well, I can understand that, but maybe it is time to stop caring what HE wants and concentrate on what is best FOR YOU! By asking you repeatedly to see you next week he is not respecting your wishes for NC. It sounds to me like you are sitting on the fence and when that happens it is very very easy to just fall back into the A. You say you did two weeks of "non physical" NC...well I guess that is a start but what about not having contact whatsoever. If you feel so guilty about having an A, and you want to spend the holidays working on your family then why don't you do just that? And do it for real. Two weeks is great, now go the distance. Tell XOM you don't want to see him or talk to him. No phone calls, no text messages, no emails. Devote yourself to your family and use the time off from work as a period of reflection. You might be surprised at how peaceful things may become for you.

Jazzdiva

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Registered: 08-11-2003
In reply to: carebear627
Sat, 12-20-2003 - 8:01pm
Thanks for the advice.I will use the time off work to rekindle my love for h.I work with om so NC at all isn't possible forever.We don't talk via email,sometimes by phone when possible.I'm serious so I'm doing my best to stick to my words.I no it will be easy to fall back and that concerns me also but I will do my best.Thanks again.