Going to see him today

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Registered: 09-26-2003
Going to see him today
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Sat, 12-20-2003 - 8:21am
Today I am going to see him for the first time in about 3 weeks. As some of you know, we work together, we're neighbors and one of his relatives is my best friend. I'm fortunate that I don't see him at work very often. We work for an organization that has 2 offices, we work opposite places most of the time and I only work 1 or 2 days a week.

I thought I would be ok, but I'm a little nervous this morning. A bunch of us are going to a play then having dinner at my house. I know he and his W are going to be here. Don't get me wrong, I'm glad the A is over and don't worry about starting it up again, it's just that things are so weird between us. My H is working, won't make the play and will most likely miss most of the dinner.

I'm wondering how we are going to "pull off" the friend thing w/o looking like we're hiding something. I won't be able to avoid him, there aren't going to be that many people here that I can do that. This will be the first time since we ended it in Aug that we are going to be in a small social setting.

I know the minute I see him and hear the sound of his voice my first response will be "Yikes, what was I thinking?" Then some visuals will hit, I'll take a deep breath and move on. I know his W casually so chatting with her is always a little difficult now. She's really a nice person and I would feel really bad if she found anything out.

I know it will all turn out well in the end, since neither of us want the A anymore and wish we had never gone there.

I just needed to talk out loud this morning thanks for listening.

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Registered: 11-19-2003
Sat, 12-20-2003 - 11:40pm
Now that it's evening, how did it all go? I hope the play was fun and the dinner wasn't too awkward for you.

Are you OK?

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Registered: 09-26-2003
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 1:40pm
Hi caring,

I posted the whole thing under "katja asked for a f/u to progress", so check out that post. I feel so great today since everything went so well, thanks for asking.