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| Sun, 12-21-2003 - 1:35pm |
As for yesterday, it all went surprisingly well. Me, being a bit immature at 39, had to make sure that I looked really good. Bought some new jeans that I think looked pretty darn good and I felt so confident in because I was sure he would notice. He always liked the smell of my hair, so I changed brands of hairspray so it would be an unfamiliar scent to him had he by chance be close enough at some point to catch a whiff.
11 of us were meeting at a play and then dinner was at my house. When I arrived everyone else was already waiting in line to get in. (My H was working and couldn't make it) I walked up to the group said a general hi, stood next to him but mostly talked to his W. There was maybe a bit of a confused look on his face. Anyway, when we went to our seats we just sort of picked whatever seat in our row. As it worked out, we were at opposite ends of the row. After the play I was sure to walk in front of him and talk to someone else, just because like I said he would notice my new jeans,(immature again, I know.)
After the play, we came back to my house for a very casual dinner. I wouldn't say, I avoided him, but I didn't go out of my way to talk to him either, like I use to. Not even sure we even said 10 words to each other all evening. His W brought the desserts. Since, like I said, my H was working he missed the dinner also. He wanted me to call over to their house and get the recipe for one of the desserts she brought. So this morning I call over there, he answers the phone and I say. "Good morning, you're not the one I want to talk to is your W home?" I think I caught him a little of guard, first of all that I was calling and second that I didn't want to talk to him. There was a moment of silence on his end. I feel so empowered today.
So, chalk one up for me, it was a very successful day. I feel so "free" from this whole ordeal. We can be in a small social setting and remain friendly.
I think I have made a major breakthrough and feel so much more like "me".
Have a great day.

Good on you! You are one classy lady and it sounds like you even had a good time.
No, I don't think anything immature about wanting to look fabu. Doesn't everyone?
I hope I will carry myself as well as you did when I eventually have to see my XMM.
Thanks for fulfilling my "Need to Know."
KATJA
Good for you!!!