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I want to end it
| Sun, 01-04-2004 - 3:38pm |
I have been cheating with a married man for about 6 months now. We were friends from work and I left that job to return to school. We decided to spend some time together before I left, just to say goodbye and best of luck, but it hasn't ended. I'm also in a relationship but things are not well and haven't been since before my affair began. I'm trying to let go of my other lover because I know it is wrong being that he is married. I know that I'm in love with him but I want to let him go and concentrate on getting my relationship back on track. He's everything I want in my current boyfriend, and it's making it difficult for me to focus on what is morally right. How can I let him go when I care for him so much?

As to the HOW, many of us here learned the hard way that NO CONTACT is the only and best way to end an A. No if's or but's....just NO CONTACT!
I wish you luck in working on your b/f relationship....or if that relationship doesn't work out, then finding someone that is SINGLE and can devote himself totally to you!
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1. he's not everything you want -- he's a liar and a cheater (on his wife & kids if any)
2. he's not proud enough of you and your relationship to make it public
3. you're in one troubled relationship that you probably want out of -- deal with that before you move on to another one
4. there's just no good outcome from an affair. Read the posts on this page & you might see yourself -- you'll surely see there's only one truly happy ending -- getting out now before you help cause a lot of unhappiness -- for yourself, your BF, your MM, his wife, his kids if any.
you deserve better than this -- if you aren't getting it from your BF, leave him & find someone you can be happy with. If you think there's something good there with the BF, work on it & give it a chance.
The affair is an escape -- like an addiction -- it feels intense but mostly out of control and shameful.