Interesting thoughts on a break up
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| Tue, 01-06-2004 - 2:16pm |
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Simply accept it. The relationship is over. He's emotionally withdrawn, he has "issues". Whatever your story is. He is NEVER going to come back again. It is NEVER going to be the way it was before.
People can get through painful things so easily - except romantic relationships.
When you lose a breast - you accept it is gone, you grieve and then you learn to make due with what you've got and utilize your best option.
When you lose a parent - you accept that they're gone. You grieve and go thru the material possessions. You remember the good and bad times - while letting them empower you to go forward.
When you lose a child - (and this one is tough!) you accept they're gone. You grieve, you never forget. Often you do not rid yourself of their belongings or presence for years - if at all. But you remember the greatness that they were, the joy and uniqueness they brought to your life and you move on.
But...with "love" relationships we tend to want to force the round peg back into a square hole. It's obviously a round peg, it won't fit - it didn't before. But we have "the person" and "the relationship" so intertwined that we cannot separate the two.
The person, yes - they're still alive. Perhaps they live close by and we have to see them often.
But the relationship - which is simply the desire to be together, the connection, the future possibilities.... is gone. And instead of trying to get it back, plug it back in, or reconnect the dots - you must accept the good and bad within it, learn from the lessons aquired during it....and move on to new possibilities.

Iknowitstime
(and so do you)