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| Wed, 01-07-2004 - 4:04pm |
Did anyone tell their H's or W's about their affair when they ended it? I am tired of the lying and need to tell my husband. i know i shouldn't. help- i'm going crazy- i've had NC for 18 hours and i am dying to pick up my phone. ughhhhhhhh

I don't think any good can come of it. In my case,there were serious consequences that ensued after. I would strongly caution you not to tell your hubby. I think and from what I've read that people tell to make themselves feel better. Absolve their own guilt. I don't think it will make the same positive impact on your spouse. I would work on your marriage without confessing if at all possible. ONLY you can forgive you. When I made my confession It was 3 am. I hadn't slept more then 4 hours in 48 and I was stressed to the maximum. Immediately after I told him I felt better and so did he. THEN he proceeded to demean and barade me verbally for the next 4 months. To include blackmail and manipulation. The divorce papers make me look like a real hussy.
If I had it to do all over again I would have never told him. It really was a short term fix to a long term problem I created for myself.
YOU MUST DEAL WITH THIS... you must deal with your guilt and learn to forgive yourself. Don't tell.... Tell us instead...
This is just my opinion...
Best Wishes,
KATJA
Chrissy, I disagree with katja.
Only you can decide what you need to do.
Exactly, Xterra!!
Well, I don't expect to be getting any forgiveness from Mrs. GB.