Thought of the day

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Registered: 04-01-2004
Thought of the day
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Thu, 04-01-2004 - 3:49pm
So here are my thoughts for the day!

I will not contact him!!

My time is valuable and he's not worth it!

All the effort and energy can be put towards a good cause! (like getting my eyebrows waxed:-))

I will not contact him!

I love myself more than this!

Anyone else need to share some thoughts?

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Registered: 03-16-2004
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 4:00pm
My thought du jour: "It's not having what you want; it's wanting what you've got!"

Today I am counting my blessings. I've got a lot of them. I don't need him anymore!!!!

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Registered: 02-22-2004
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 5:00pm
Can't get him out of my head. 15 days NC!

My thought today that is keeping me going:

Strength displays integrity which ultimately can spawn desire and respect. It is

not a game....it's the truth. Be strong!!!

I want him but can never have him.

Most of all I want his respect and if I stick to my decision and stay away, hopefully, I will have that. If I am weak and give it....I blow it!

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Registered: 07-08-2003
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 10:11am
I just came from therapy and my head is swimming with thoughts for the day, but if I had to pick just THE ONE that's going to keep me going, it's this: OMM was a trip to Disneyworld. No reality, just pure escape. That's why you don't see Mickey or Pooh pushing a shopping car in the food store or at the laundromat. Escape and reality don't mix, and escape doesn't go on forever. Eventually, you need to leave Disneyworld and return to work!

mo 7-18-10

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 11:05am

Funny you should use the Disneyworld analogy! It was during his family vacation to Disneyland that I decided it was time to bring things to a screeching halt. He had no clue as far as I know about how I had already decided it was time to bring things to a close. My husband knew, but he knew/knows me better than even I know myself.


Anyway, when GB came over after his vacation, yes, my house was the first place he went even before work, he brought me a gift form his vacation. It was so sweet, a Mickey Mouse pen and Mickey's my hero. I kept the pen and told him to leave.


I was ready for the reality of my relationship with Sean, no more fantasy with GB. I knew I would never live with him, much less marry him! I knew that if I didn't live with Sean, I would be living alone. Sean is my best friend/partner and most wonderful lover.


~Chris~


PS: It'll be two years this Easter.

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Registered: 04-02-2004
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 12:32pm
thank you for that, hes not worth my time, he treats me like dirt & Im too good for him :)
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Registered: 07-25-2003
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 1:24pm
thought for the day: My XMM is a "head case" and doesn't know what he wants! I've got to figure out my own life rather than worry about his!

Clarice

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 2:07pm
My thought for the day...

"If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always got" After four years of repeating the same cycle over and over again - I finally get this!!!

Another thought I had today was the analogy of a fire...The affair was the fire - hot, steamy burning out of control, clouding my vision...destroying and devastating everything in its path (my relationships with others - mostly my husband)...powerful and all consuming. I have to fight to ensure every ember of that fire gets put out and then nurture the burned soil so that new growth can begin again. New healthy life...peaceful once again.

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Registered: 03-16-2004
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 3:20pm
RIGHT THERE WITH YA GIRL!!!!
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Registered: 04-02-2004
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 9:46pm
I agree,I'm tired of waiting around! It sucks,I'm never going to email him again.
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Registered: 04-04-2004
Sun, 04-04-2004 - 6:55pm
I wish I had your strength...I hope someday to say exactly the same thing.

Good for you!

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