When does it get easier?

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Registered: 04-04-2004
When does it get easier?
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Wed, 04-07-2004 - 8:24am
Morning all. Its day 3 and this is so hard. I ended it on Sunday and he never called to ask why. Dont they care. I read one of the posts and what I do miss is talking to him. He was the one person who I could laugh with, say anything to. I miss him calling me in the mornings to say hi.

My son is having surgery on Friday, its minor but its still surgery. Will he call to see how he is?

Last night I looked back at the past 3 and 1/2 years, almost 4, and not once did he take me for coffee or dinner. He would just come over to my place for a couple of hours. Nice right?

I was making my pros and cons list last night, but had to put it down, it hurt too much.

I want to hate him, but I cant. I loved him. A fool huh?

Thanks for listening...

Caring

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Wed, 04-07-2004 - 11:29am
HI Caring

Your very early in all this 3 days is nothing, consider that you invested almost 4 years of emotion in this snake.

There is no easy exit from a affair, lots of TIME, NO CONTACT, and Pain is what it takes, there are no short cuts.

It does sound like you are beginning to be honest with yourself about how this Guy opperated and what you were to him, this may help if you keep focused on the truth, hate will come so will real anger.

Good luck to your son on his surgey and to you on your healing

BE STRONG

F

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Registered: 03-16-2004
Wed, 04-07-2004 - 11:48am
It is good that you are starting to be honest with yourself, but don't make "hate" your goal... I don't, and never will, hate my XOM. Sometimes I am angry with him, but more with myself. But I don't feel like I need to hate him in order to get over him! I think the world of him, really, and I want the best for him. I know now that what is best for both of us is to be out of this relationship. It took awhile to get to that point.
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Registered: 04-04-2004
Wed, 04-07-2004 - 1:08pm
What I was to him has been in my mind for sometime. I just ignored it, or didn't want to face it. I am lonely, thats the truth. I don't have friends to go out with, and he showed attention to me. Is is the right thing for us to do, NO, but when you are lonely you say, hey, why not? But our hearts suffer, and the realization that I was used.