My complicated situation

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Registered: 07-25-2003
My complicated situation
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Wed, 04-07-2004 - 12:52pm
You guys! I don't want to be divorced--but i can't stay in this marriage either! I've decided i need to post here as well as on the Betrayed Spouses board; AND the Divorce board!

I am just so tired of all of this and just want to escape to a movie; have to work and have kids home from school for break.

I can throw a dart at any of these feelings: EMA, Betrayed Spouse or fear of divorce. Gee. Maybe i will just pick one each day to worry/obseess about.

Feeling overwhelmed and sorry for myself today. Sorry, had to vent. There's still much of the day to be had, so maybe i will feel better as the clock ticks on!

Clarice

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Registered: 03-16-2004
Wed, 04-07-2004 - 1:15pm
You know, I read your other post and have been thinking about how to respond ever since. It really is a complicated situation. Not "sick" though!! I can certainly understand why you are feeling all the things you are feeling. It does make sense, somehow.

Is the therapist you're seeing a couples therapist, or are you doing it on your own? Just wondering. I think what you need to do is stop all the nonsense with the XMM for the next month & a half, focus completely on your marriage until June 1, and then if you decide you want out, you can do so with the knowledge that you really did give it your best shot.

It's so easy to sit here and say all of this stuff, much harder to live it. Often when I'm doling out advice here, acting like I have all the answers -- HA! -- I'm really talking to myself, you know? It helps me to reaffirm the steps I'm trying to take in my own life.

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Wed, 04-07-2004 - 1:53pm


OK so you don't want to be divorced, so what do the TWO of you have to do to build a new marriage that both of you will want to be in???, the big question right, maybe the ownly way it can be answered is if both you and your husband work on that answer together.

Good luck

F