LOVELESS

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Registered: 04-10-2004
LOVELESS
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Tue, 04-13-2004 - 6:05pm
I STARTED HAVING AND AFFAIR ABOUT 2 YEARS AGO . THIS IS PRETTY MUCH THE SAME STORY AS EVERYONE. I KEPT TRYING TO BREAK IT OF BECAUSE OF THE GUILT OF THE KIDS I COULD'NT HANDLE IT BUT HE ALWAYS CALLED. HE WANTED ME TO LEAVE MY HUSBAND BUT I COULDN'T BECAUSE OF THE KIDS.HE IS DIVORCE AND I' KNOW HE LOVES ME BUT THIS TIME HE STARTED SEEING SOME ONE AND I CAN'T HANDLE THIS. I'M LEAVING MY HUSBAND BECAUSE IM SO TIRED OF FEELING SAD. I WAS FILLED WITH LOVE WITH THE OTHER MAN. NOW I FEEL HURT AND NOTHING. I DON'T BLAME HIM FOR FINDING SOMEONE BUT I DO SO MISS HIM. I WOULD EVEN TELL HIM TO FIND SOMEONE SINGLE SO HE WOULD BE HAPPY. I KNOW THIS IS PROBABLY FOR THE BEST BECAUSE THIS BREAK WOULD OF HAPPENED ANYWAY. I MISS HIM DEARLY, MY HEART IS ON THE FLOOR,I DON'T EAT, I CANT SLEEP. I KNOW NOW I CAN'T LIVE WITH MY HUSBAND ANY MORE ,I WANT TO BREATH AGAIN, I WANT TO SMILE AGAIN.IM IN A LOVELESS MARRAIGE WITH KIDS.
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Registered: 04-05-2003
In reply to: baccarat35
Tue, 04-13-2004 - 6:59pm
The way to your happiness lies in self-esteem.

You need to see a counsler right away. By yourself, not as a couple. After a few visits you will begin to feel the cloud lift. You will also find that the only person that affects/controls your happiness is you. The other people in your life (H, OM, kids, family & co-workers) are just a refection of your inner peace.

OM isn't the answer to getting your heart off the floor. Pick your self up and tell your self that there are a lot of other things that could be worse happening in your life.

Has he really moved on? Is this seperation/divorce from your H a reaction to OM's new GF or are you really leaving because you want to?

Think LONG & HARD about the choices that need to be made because when children are involved their happiness and well being should be your 1st priority. They know when a marriage isnt happy. They feel the tension around an unhappy couple so "staying for the children" isnt a good excuse.

Keep your head up and get some help with your saddness. Everything will work out in the end.

aquagirl

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Registered: 12-28-2003
In reply to: baccarat35
Tue, 04-13-2004 - 7:07pm


I second aquagirl, dead on, don't make any radical life changes tell you get in to IC for a while and get your feelings untangled.

F