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| Wed, 04-14-2004 - 11:21am |
H and I saw our counselor the other day, and I decided to have NC with OM for now, and to try again with husband. H and I have always had a good, warm relationship, but absolutely no sexual chemistry or passion. I feel like he's always just been my best friend. On the other hand, OM and I felt instantly connected and comfortable with each other. He is so different from my H - more passionate, exciting, fun, adventurous, sexy, etc. He is also kind and compassionate, and I truly believe he loves me. I feel so free and alive when I am with him. So, it's hard to give him up, even for a little while.
So, the question is, how do I keep NC with OM, and how long can I do it? I'm going crazy today not calling him, and I've already broken NC and e-mailed him. How do I try with my husband when my heart isn't in it? I know the A has clouded my thinking but, once your heart feels alive again and you experience things you've never experienced before, how do you go back??
HELP! I have to move forward one way or the other. Limbo is hurting everyone.

Chemistry and passion do not make a marriage work in the long run it takes a lot more, when you and OM are together 24/7 your going to get your eyes opened in a rude fashion, he will become a complete person and most likely not the person you have created in your mind.
Bare in mind that this ia a man that is prepared to sleep with other mens wifes, way would he stop just because he is married himself, he could never trust you and you could never trust him.
If you enter a ful time relationship with him there is a 95 percent probability of it ending with in one year, and if you last one year and get married there is an 85 percent likely hood of that marriage ending in divorce.
Chemistry and passion will not carry you into old age together, true friendship and love will, that is what I think you have with your husband, what you have with OM if nothing more then affair FOG and fantasy, and when that meets the real world it will vanish like smoke.
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