When your friends leave you. . .

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Registered: 07-25-2003
When your friends leave you. . .
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Thu, 04-15-2004 - 12:53am
I have tons of friends, but three that i am really close with-we were like a foursome: got together, talked daily, always sat together at events related to our children . only one knows about my emotional A and it has taken its toll on her to keep that a secret. But recently, i have learned that my other 2 friends that they are just TIRED of my situation. they don't know which way to go regarding the relationship with my H. I feel abandoned.

There is only so much that friends can take. After so much drama in my life, apparently, my friends have said enough. It hurts.

I don't talk to anyone anymore about my marital problems, after our T said that it's like my H and i have 40 people a night in bed with us.

What i have now is you guys; this board and the peace that i get knowing that others are out there that can truly understand the complexities of falling in love with a MM.

I didn't ask for this. I didn't ask for my H to subsequently to have his own A. But all of it happened. It is real and there and can't be taken away now.

Thank you for being there; for being non judgemental and for not giving up on me.

Clarice

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Thu, 04-15-2004 - 10:18am
The best part of being here is sharing feelings and emotions with people who understand exactly what you are going through. You hit the nail on the head when you said "non judgmental".

Your right, none of us asked for this and none of us went looking for it. I think for most of us "it just happened"....

and your right we cant take it back. we have to live with it forever. and hopefully we can learn from it and move on. I hope to be at a better place soon. I guess a part of me just doesnt understand why it all happened.

In life you also learn who to share this kind of information with. Friends will be friends but sometimes if they havent walked in your shoes they just dont get it and then they judge you. That is why I like coming here. I have never shared this information with anyone and dont plan to. This will be something I will simply take to my grave. I am actually a pretty private person with my own personal feelings so it is really nice to come here and share feelings and release some of these frustrations. Sometimes I just feel like I am going to burst from holding this all in.

Ok...I think I am starting to ramble... :)

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Registered: 03-16-2004
Thu, 04-15-2004 - 11:33am
{{{HUGS}}} Clarice! We're your friends, too! :)
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Registered: 04-10-2004
Thu, 04-15-2004 - 1:09pm
I AGREE COMPLETELY I WILL TAKE THIS TO MY GRAVE TOO. I CAN'T IMAGINE WHAT MY LIFE WOULD BE IF THIS CAME OUT OR WORSE WHAT IT WOULD BE IF I LEFT H FOR OM