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Did I mis out?
| Sat, 04-17-2004 - 10:17am |
Should have I left H for OM ? what are the chances that this would have worked out? I have yet to hear of people staying together after one leaves there spouse for the A. I feel horrible that I did'nt leave H for OM but this would have distroyed H and K.I think I'm dealing with guilt know more then anything I have hurt everyone including myself.How many people stay together after the affect ? Did I miss out?

Question for you: Would you have left your husband if there wasn't an OM around to soften the blow?
If not, then you weren't really intent on having anything with OM except some temporary relief from your marriage or a boredom fix.
If you'd leave your marriage without OM around, then I think you have your answer.
Time to leave. Period, end of story.
As I posted to another person tonight, you know in heart when it is absolutely time to leave. ANd nothing will keep you staying.
Believe me, I anguished over whether to stay or leave for years on end before I finally said "enough". Yes, it was hard on the kids. At first. Now it's a lot easier on them without the arguing and bickering emotional warfare.
If it is really time for you to leave, you'll know it.
SO stop wondering the "what if's" and look forward. Where are you going and how are you going to get there? With or without hubby, you need a plan and a roadmap.
Draw one and keep moving forward.
cl-nre