What a difference a month makes

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Registered: 03-16-2004
What a difference a month makes
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Mon, 04-19-2004 - 7:58pm
I realized the other day that I've been on this board now for almost exactly a month, so I decided to go back and look up my very first post. Wow, I was so lost! I can feel the desperation in that first post. For 3 & 1/2 months I just had been struggling with absolutely no direction, no idea how to move forward and let go of the A. And for 3&1/2 months I had had absolutely no one to talk to about my struggles, no one to listen & understand.

I'm sooo grateful I found this board. I feel so much stronger & more confident in my ability to let go now. I know I still have a ways to go, but it's great knowing that when I have that occasional "hiccup" on my way to healing, (like getting an unexpected email ;-)), I have this place to turn to. Thanks to all for being there!!

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Registered: 04-03-2004
Mon, 04-19-2004 - 8:17pm
Good for you - It seems like you have offered so much good advice to others. I think that that has helped in the healing process (I know that that has helped me alot!).

At times I am really surprised that it has hurt as long as it has (both of our A's ended around the same time). I think that I have come to the realization that it is always going to hurt a little though it will become easier (and it already has!). There are always going to be those ruts that we fall into - but hopefully they too will become less frequent.

Look at what you have learned from the experience about yourself. I am a firm believer that EVERYTHING happens for a reason. It is still not 100% clear as to why the A happened for me but I know that I have learned so many valuable lessons from it and about myself.

Good luck and thanks for helping us stay strong too!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 04-19-2004 - 9:13pm

Katie, you have came a long way from your first few days here. And, you'll go further yet.It does take time and patience and self-undestanding. You're gonna get there!


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Registered: 02-22-2004
Tue, 04-20-2004 - 10:29am
Hi Katie,

I was thinking about posting yesterday but was too busy. FINALLY...it seems that the obsessing is beginning to diminish. Hopefully, that well deserved whomp you gave me was my last set back. I do still think about him daily but I can say that worrying what he is thinking is less and less on my mind. Yippee!!!!!!!

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Tue, 04-20-2004 - 4:32pm
You sound great! I will say a special prayer for you to continue on that great road of strength!

Happy for you Katie. You give me hope!