Songs that trigger emotions

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Songs that trigger emotions
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Thu, 04-22-2004 - 2:45pm
What do you do when songs trigger emotions? I have songs that remind me of our time together and then I hear songs that trigger sad emotions. He had left this song on my cell phone voice mail and I still have it saved ( i know i should probably delete it but I am not ready to yet).

"My Immortal" by Evanessence

I'm so tired of being here

Suppressed by all my childish fears

And if you have to leave

I wish that you would just leave

'Cause your presence still lingers here

And it won't leave me alone

These wounds won't seem to heal

This pain is just too real

There's just too much that time cannot erase



When you cried I'd wipe away all of your tears

When you'd scream I'd fight away all of your fears

I held your hand through all of these years

But you still have

All of me

You used to captivate me

By your resonating light

Now I'm bound by the life you left behind

Your face it haunts

My once pleasant dreams

Your voice it chased away

All the sanity in me

These wounds won't seem to heal

This pain is just too real

There's just too much that time cannot erase



I've tried so hard to tell myself that you're gone

But though you're still with me

I've been alone all along

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Thu, 04-22-2004 - 5:25pm
What worked for me was replacing the memories of XMM with memories that include my H.

XMM and I really liked Norah Jones. The first day we snuck off together we listened to the whole CD. Just danced and talked. After the A ended everytime I heard Norah I was a wreck.

Since I really like Norah and I didn't want to stop playing her CD's, I decided to create some new memories. H and I were together one day, with Norah playing softly in the background. Now when I hear her I smile and think of my H.

The mind, it's a funny thing sometimes.

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Thu, 04-22-2004 - 5:59pm
after A ended, i put away all the CDs i was listening to and bought a whole bunch of new ones. problem was, the new ones reminded me of XMM too.

Initially, it was an old Carly Simon song that reminded me of him the most: "So Much Fun to Be With" and then it b/c a host of others: Barry White, REM, Pink Floyd (breathe, breathe in the air; don't be afriad to care; leave, don't leave me) and especially Smashmouths "Satellite" (i can see you floating by me; you've got a beautiful face that's pointed straight up to the smog;. . . you pushed the reset button on the counter of my heart." Then there was Tom Petty "here comes my girl"--there is a line in that song that says: "we ain't going to never change our minds about it".

But it was the "you pushed the reset button on the counter of my heart"--that started it all. It really said alot: Married man, married 12 years, same as me, and he and i wished we both could just press the restart button and start over.

Can't think about these songs today. Too hard. Funny. In 18 years, my H and i NEVER had a song; not even one little, itty, bitty ditty. Oh well.



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Thu, 04-22-2004 - 6:06pm



Everything is still brand new. The first song we shared and when I hear it I break down is "Again" by Lenny Kravitz. Then there's "Uninvited" by Alanis Morrisette, "Bring Me to Life" by Evanessence, "Addicted" by Enrique Iglesias, "Why Can't I Breathe" by Liz Phair, and a host of others but those are the primary songs that when I hear them tears me apart.

MidnightBlue

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Fri, 04-23-2004 - 12:22pm
"Why Can't I Breathe" is one of my trigger songs too. Alifechoice, that is a great idea about replacing old memories with new with H...maybe someday I will be able to do it.

What about movies? I recently rented "The End of the Affair" with Julianne Moore and Ralph Fiennes and LOVED it. Have any of you seen it? I watched it through twice (alone of course!)

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Fri, 04-23-2004 - 1:08pm
liz phair is my favorite. i like "Why Can't I Breathe," too, but the song that was mine and Xmm's was "Friend of Mine." It really says it all. Our A accelerated last summer before he went to Italy with his family. During the time he was gone, i felt a certain intuitive sense of "being let go." (xMM and i often talked about how our emotions were similar even when we were apart--like ET and Elliot, if that makes any sense). Anyway: the lines in the song go:

Gonna to take a vacation stop chasing what I lack

Am i going to blown off as soon as I get back?

and then later:

It's been so long, since you've been a friend to me

What happened, when did you let go of me?

I miss you so badly

In short: he went away to Italy and i ended it the second he got back; later i went away for a month (trying to take a vacation to stop chasing what i lack).

Anyway, Liz Phair is the best. I love her alot. See her often in concert. I am her absolute biggest fan.

Clarice

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Fri, 04-23-2004 - 5:52pm
My MM left one on my cell also. "Lets Make Love" by Faith Hill & Tim McGraw. I can't bring myself to delete it either. I miss all the little things we shared. There are so many. I am also trying to deal with the emotions. Funny how a song on the radio can ruin your whole day. Today mine was "Cant Stop Loving You" by Phil Collins.
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Mon, 04-26-2004 - 2:37pm
I don't know whether its an age gap or what, but I don't know many of the artists or songs you all have been posting about. Hmmmmmm..... I may be a "bit" older than many of you, plus I like hard rock (knew that Smashmouth song!). Anyway, me and OMM's song was by the Scorpions - No One Like You

Girl,

Its been a long time that we've been apart.

Much too long for a man who needs love.

I miss you since I've been away.

Babe,

It wasn't easy to leave you alone

It's getting harder each time that I go

If I had the choice I would stay.

There's no one like you

I can't wait for the nights with you.

I imagine the things we'll do.

I just wanna be loved by you.

Girl,

There are really no words strong enough

To describe all my longing for love

I don't want my feelings restrained.

Oh Babe, I just need you like never before

Just imagine you'd come through this door

You'd take all my sorrow away

There's no one like you

I can't wait for the nights with you

I imagine the things we'll do.

I just wanna be loved by you

There's no one like you!

UGH! Just typing this put a pit in my stomach large enough to drive a truck through. Love, Maureen

mo 7-18-10

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Mon, 04-26-2004 - 9:00pm


momesq1991,


I LOVE 80's rock and definitely know that song which is a good one. Another song I know that will ruin my day would be "Everytime I Look at You" by Kiss. Also the song "Midnightblue" by the lead singer from the group "Bad Company" (hence my name and I can't think of the man's name off-hand from the band) I don't mind giving my age, it's 33 (will be 34 next month).

Anyway, I think we all have our songs that were within the relationship but I also think depending on how we're feeling at any given moment or day that ANY song that fits could cause emotion. I know it does for me, even if it's not a song that represented my A.

MidnightBlue

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Mon, 04-26-2004 - 9:07pm
Another '80's headbanger here...LMAO. Hey, midnight....wasn't that song by Lou Gramm, the lead singer from Foreigner????

As for my songs....gosh, TOO many to name....here are a few that get me going:

"All I want" and "The last time I saw Richard"--Joni Mitchell

"The Scientist" and "Trouble" and "Green Eyes" by Coldplay

and the list goes on and on.....

still head banging after all these years,

dharma

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Mon, 04-26-2004 - 9:22pm
dhrmagurl,

Yes, you are right about Lou Gramm. Shame on me for not remembering. 80's all the way!! Yes, the list goes on for me too! I can't tell you how many daydreams and scenerios I created in my mind with each and every song. When things were real bad in my home, I would retreat to my fantasy world. Now, that my divorce is here and reality has come full force those fantasies now cause me pain.

MidnightBlue

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