New here - found comfort

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Registered: 02-07-2004
New here - found comfort
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Thu, 04-22-2004 - 6:31pm
Hi All,

I am new to this board and found so much comfort here. I recently ended a 7 yr A. Like most of you it seems everything reminds me of him. TV, Radio, intersections, all have a connection. It has made me feel so much better just to come here and read all the posts. Its hard to grieve in silence, can't cry H will ask why, so here I am. Thank you all for taking away the feeling of being so alone.

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Registered: 09-26-2003
Thu, 04-22-2004 - 10:35pm
Welcome to the board. This is a great place to vent and get through the hard stuff. I keep saying this over and over on here, time is the key.

Best of luck to you and keep reading it really does help.

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Registered: 02-07-2004
Mon, 04-26-2004 - 9:15pm
Thanks for your kind words. The ending of the A has been one of the hardest things for me I find it hard to even put into words here what I am going through. Thank God I found this board. At least I don not feel so alone. I read all the posts and think what a strong and supportive group. I wish I could sort through all my emotions and put into words what I feel, but I am a complete mess. I miss him like crazy. I cant sleep or eat. I am trying so hard not to call him.........but I won't, instead I will keep reading the posts and try to get my head straight, and get through another day of NC. Thanks again to all for easing my pain a little.

lexy

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Registered: 07-20-2003
Mon, 04-26-2004 - 9:30pm
lexy6,

Hi, and welcome. I've been away for 3 days, but my heart goes out to you. I just ended a 3 1/2 A that to me was my lifeforce and my other half. I understand when you say that there aren't words to describe how you're feeling. How does one express the tearing of a brokenheart?

What I will say is that it does get better and be gentle and kind with yourself. Time is what will help ease the pain until one day you will look at the the life lessons you now carry with you and the pain won't feel anywhere near as intense as it does now.

It is a process so take care of yourself (sleep, eat, excercise, which I know is easier said then done, because I haven't been the best at doing any of these things), and know that you are not alone.

MidnightBlue

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Registered: 02-07-2004
Mon, 04-26-2004 - 10:04pm
Midnight

I hope one day I can be a stong as you are. You are right there are no words to descirbe the pain of having your heart torn in half. He was and always will be the one who completes me. Its rough getting through the nights. I miss the goodnight phone call. I am trying and will keep reading the great advice on this board.

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Registered: 07-08-2003
Tue, 04-27-2004 - 9:34am
Welcome, Lexy, and glad you're feeling in good company here!

Intersections?????? That made me laugh. I totally understand the kinds of things you mean though. The memories aren't confined to just songs and places we used to go together. The other day I realized he was with me when I shopped for my darned handbag and that became a trigger. I was looking at this stupid handbag and remembering when I showed it to him, after hours of shopping, and decided it was THE ONE. What a silly thing to remember.

It's everywhere you look, Lexy. I'm glad you're finding some comfort grieving with us. We also have some laughs here! Hugs and welcome! Mo.

mo 7-18-10

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Registered: 04-22-2004
Tue, 04-27-2004 - 1:18pm
I know exactly what you mean. Its hard for me really to find anything that does not make me remember. Even four leaf clovers which is why I use them a lot on my posts.

I can not help but wonder if this is harder/takes longer because its harder to grieve about what has happened. There is no one in my life I can talk to about what went on. The only people that know anything about it are the people I work with, and there no help.

I is nice to find this board where other people can help each other through the end :)

- B