It's all over for me....I think???
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It's all over for me....I think???
| Sat, 04-24-2004 - 7:38pm |
Some of you may have read my other messages I posted up here about a couple of weeks ago ago my affair with a married man as well,Yesterday I think we ended it. I work with him and he is always coming to my department telling me how much he misses me and how beautiful and georgeous I am all the time, This where it get tricky. I asked him if he had been or is sleeping with other women besides his wife inside and outside of work and he goes "HELL NO!!" I apologized and said that I just wanted to know because I don't want to look like a damn fool and especially have someone play with my emotions. Anyhow He promised he would come to my department so we could talk for a little bit and see eachother because this is his weekend off and he didn't come up because he said he was doing evaluations on his employees. We spent 2 wonderful evenings together and I know he can't give me all of his time because of his wife. We made love to eachother twice and he told me how much he cares and likes me and he asked me if I did not mind sharing him and I said for right no, And he tell's me how much he misses me. Anyhow he told me that it was unprofessional to ask him at work if he sleeps with anyone, he asked me why didn't I ask him when he was together, and I told him that it must have slipped my mind. He promised to take me out in May and I kept asking when in may and he made a remark that made me cry he said "It's only to please you" and he said now you ruined my evening and I was so sad and I said well have a nice night out and he said alright and he slammed the phone down without even saying goodnight. He also said that whatever he does is not good enough for me, meaning if he doesn't come upstairs to my department or if he doesn't call or whatever it may be he feels it wont be good enough for me and I just want some advice is he ending it or will he call after we both cool down but whatever it is i think i need to end it how do I go about doing it?? I still am very much in love with him. I miss him already. Another thing is after we had it out I called his cellphone like 3 hours later and he didn't want to talk to me and I know he pushed the reject button on the phone and I left a message saying how sorry I was that I ruined his evening and how much he hurt my feelings with those remarks and on the voicemail he could tell I was crying.

Sorry your haveing this problem, but it seems pretty clear this guy is a real JERK.
More then likely he will be back and you will get more of the same treatment anytime you stand up for yourself, it is a control tactic to teach you to stay in line.
Dump his sorry *SS for your own good and protect you self respect and self-eteem before both get damaged.
GOOD LUCK
F
There are some compassionate and caring married men that have affairs but IMO yours certainly is not one of those men.....he's a selfish man that expects and always will expect you to cater to his every demand.
The best thing you can do for yourself is to dump the guy as if he's some disease and don't waste your breath on trying to explain anything to him! And more importantly, dry your eyes as he's not worth the tears he's causing you to shed.
Stay strong, stay determined and the next time he he decides to drop by your department tell him you have nothing further to say to him!