Hey everyone....I'm back!!!!!!
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Hey everyone....I'm back!!!!!!
| Fri, 04-30-2004 - 2:29am |
Hey ladies (and the 1 or 2 gents) how is it going???? Ok I see alot of new names and you probably don't remember me but I am an old timer. I have been where everone is and been alot lower. You can read my post in archives if interested. But I am over the first stupid relationship I had with a married man and moved directley into another. It was different he is gettind divorced but he insisted on moving in and being serious and now after three months he changed his mind. Not about the divorce but he says he needs some time and doesn't want to hurt me later so we should break up. Anyway I am devestated again BUT don't want to go down the road I traveled before where I wanted to die so I am trying to stay strong.
Any old timers who want to know what is up with all my legal stuff from the other stupid relationship.. WEll I went to court today and I got my gun back so no losing my job. YIPEE. I still have to go through IA but my LT. told me they may just drop it. So things are getting better with all the trouble my XMM and his W got me into.
Just wanted ya'll to know I am back and will try to support and cheer up when I can. I have been there and these relationships are so NOT worth it.
Cali

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Hi, Cali! I've wondered what happened to you! Update me and NRE, willya!?!
And, tell me why in the heck you'd get involved with another MM before he was divorced! Geesh, girl, I thought we taught you better'n that. {{{Cali}}} I'm just kidding with ya, Cali.
I'd like to say, "Welcome back!" I'd like to say, "Good to see you again" yet while it is good to see you, it isn't good to see you hurting again!
I was wondering about you myself just recently. Wondering how you & X-Terra might be doing. You were both going through so much about the time i found this board. Whilst i remember you, you probably don't remember me because even though i've been lurking for a long time i've never really posted much. I still lurk here often but don't really post. I'm sorry to hear you are going through similiar stuff as before but i'm sure you are a lot stronger than the last time & you'll come out of this one so much the wiser again. I find just reading here is good for me even though i don't really post. I usually don't end up with enough time to sit & post after i've read what everybody else is experiencing but find that just reading alone is enough to remind me that i don't like the person i became when i was seeing XMM. And that i have everything i need with H.
{{{{{{ Hugs to you }}}}}
I remember you glad you remember me. I am doing much better. X-terra probably wants to kicki my butt. We talked alot then I changed my numbers so XMM and his W wouldn't have them and I didn't cal and give her the new numbers then I have been without a computer for months now so I have been out of service. I hope she is doing good. Last time I spoke with her she was really busy with her companies. She has a lot going for her so I know she is good. Also Shescomeundone is awsome. We still talk. It is amazing the people I met here and to come back and still have friends is awsome. I am glad you are working through your struggles and hopefully your marriage is stronger due to the pain you have gone through. I am glad that you realize you have something good and I wish you nothing but the best. If you ever need anything I am here for better or worse.
Love Cali~
I want to say and have said before there are so many wonderful people here that I wish we could all go to another board to keep updated on each other once we have made it through our tough times. You guys on this board are the reason I am still living today and without you guys I never would have made it. And knowing I can come back anytime and get support is amazing.
I just got in from the club and met a marine so we will see if he can get me away from the new XMM. Right now he wants to be single, get divorced and see if he gets unconfused. Yea whatever...We work together and he is actually a ok guy so you know what I am hurting but life goes on and every experience is a learning experience and only makes us stronger. So he wants to be friend so be it he will realize what he lost and appreciate my friendship while I am with someone who wants me. I hurt but you can't lock your emotions up forever and I use to do that. What is the saying it is better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all.
If you don't mind I will for sure be back to update on my stuff and also pop in to lighten things up once in a while. I know people come and share when they are hurting but sometimes we need to get our minds off of it with a little funny every now and then or a poll about how wonderful we are.
Again thanks for being there. I owe everyone here.
Hugs
Cali~
Wow, Cali, your perspective is so different this tme around! You are still the strong woman you were. I am so pleased to know that we were here when you needed us then and we're here for you now. You will always be welcome here! Remember that!
And, yes, we do need things to lighten this place up once in awhile. Please feel free to post a quiz or a poll, a joke or an anecdote, or even just part of your story that others can relate to!
Welcome 'home', Cali!
I was thinking about you too! Hoping you made it through. I think it was good for you to get off of here! I still look every now and then but it's not my life line anymore. I'm so happy that your doing well..mostly. Just think of this last relationship as a transition.
I'm so glad your back! You do sound like a different person
I'll write longer later... I'm so busy with a three month old! But she is just beautiful.
Hi, Katja! Another oldie but goodie comes out of the woodwork. Wow, she's 3 months old already? It doesn't seem like she should be that old. Bet she's adorable, like her mama. She's a lucky little girl.
You sound good, I am glad that you got your weapon back. You are a prime example of how an A can wreck your life, you almost lost your career over your XMM and his psychotic wife. I hope that you can be an example to those that are in the worst of it now. My heart goes out to anyone that feels the pain that we have felt. Life does go on even though it is hard to realize that when you are in the depth of despair.
Well girl you know my email address so keep letting me know what the deal is. Do you have a computer again?
I'm sending you hugs......
Jazzdiva
Jazzdiva
I have thought about you often these last few months....so glad to hear that you are doing OK! I am not on the board much anymore....just pop in and lurk occasionally. Was so glad to see your name again! My H found out about my long-distance, emotional A. Ironically, by the time he confronted me about it, it was basically already over. I contacted MM again after H found out to let him know. We were back in touch for a short time....have now been NC for almost 2 months. I am doing good! I finally came to a point when I realized I didn't need MM anymore. My H is still overseas w/the military. Not quite sure what will happen w/us when he returns. In the mean time, I have discovered that I have the most amazing friends and family a girl could ask for! This board was also a great help to me during my worst days. I will be forever grateful to all the wise, sympathetic and non-judgmental people I met here!
Take care of yourself, Cali. I wish you all the best!! (=
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