ended affair w/ married man this morning
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ended affair w/ married man this morning
| Fri, 07-23-2004 - 2:01pm |
I don't know if you could actually call it an affair, we never did anything, not even kiss. The thing is I'm married and I met the MM 5 months ago. We felt instant attraction. It felt great to feel wanted, my husband never made me feel that way. I would visit this guy at work maybe twice a month and talked to him almost everyday. We really got to know each other. We were both having problems in our marriage. But, I was getting to the point where I was REALLY starting to fall for him, and some people encouraged me to end it because I would only get hurt in the end. So, I ended it this morning before anything happened and I got in to deep. I will try and work things out with my husband (he doesn't know anything, and he won't). I'm kind of glad I did it, but I feel so bad, and heartbroken. I will NOT go back to him, but I can't get him out of my mind.

You have good friends be glad that you listened to them they did you a big favor.
I will get better if you keep NO CONTACT with this MM, believe me when I tell you the good feelings you have when you start the affair are replaced by a lot of real bad stuff that you do not need in your life.
Keep busy focus on you and your family, try to get hubby to agree to MC or other help for the BOTH of you.
It is a long and at times hard climb out of this but it is worth it and it does get better in time.
Read lost here and post as much as you need, venting can help but above all things stay NO CONTACT with the other man.
GOOD LUCK
Free
You *will* get through this. I know it must seem so hard right now, but the pain will fade. Take 1 day at a time, and think of each day of no contact is one more step towards freedom and healing. I also admire that you are making an effort to work on things with H. I am trying to the same thing with my H. I feel badly that I let things get so bad that the A happened, but I can't dwell on that now, I can just move forward.
Let us know how you are doing, and stay strong! We are here for you!!!
((hugs))
Circe
Stick around and stay strong!! You're doing the right thing!
Best of luck!!!
~Love
It sounds like you have a good plan and your working it well.
Just keep it up for a few weeks and I think for you the worse will be over if you keep total NO CONTACT, be were though 1 contact can put you right back to square one, so hang in there and keep up the good work.
I hope you and hubby will invest in each other daily that will help a lot more then you may think to help reconnect and reorder your priorities.
See ya later
Free
Your are SO SMART to get out before you got too far in! I can tel you from experience - I had warnings also but I just kept slipping and got to point of no return. I wish I had done it your way. It's easier to stay out than to get out.
Still struggling,
Susie