Uh-Oh What do I do now PLEASE HELP
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Uh-Oh What do I do now PLEASE HELP
| Tue, 07-27-2004 - 11:36am |
Now I have run into a little problem. My friend (I met the MM through her, they do business together) and I always go shopping together at the nearest mall which is about an hour away, so we don't go too often, maybe once or twice a month. The problem is, is that since it's kinda of a drive we usually take care of other business while we are in that city that needs to be done. And the MM works where my friend has to go to take care of some business. She is the only person I can go with and my hubby won't get mad. And she is the only one that can take me shopping because noone else wants to drive that far. Anyway, everytime we go shopping we stop at the MM place of work, that's how we met, and after that's how we would get to see each other. But now that it's broken off I don't know what to do. Because my friend wants to go one day this week, and I really need to go with her, I need to go shopping (for clothes, really bad), but after we shop we have to go to the MM's work, and we are usually there all day, so it's not like I can wait in the truck for her, I would have to get down and would have to see him. Should I go with her, since I do need to go, and try to handle the situation the best I can; or should I not go with her, which I won't be to go with her for a LONG TIME and do with out the stuff I need and can't get any errands that I need done, done. What to do ? STAY? or GO?

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Can your friend leave you at the mall while she is at this persons work place then pick you up later to go home together.
I agree with Kate you should avoid this OM at all costs.
There is always a solution if you think about it.
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One thing you mentioned that kind of caught my eye was that this friend was the only person you could go shopping with that won't upset your husband. Why is this?
No I do not think it is a good thing for you to go there unless your emotions are made out of ice.
Your friend is not helping you trying to get you to go over there, I am sure her intentions are good but it is plain and simply a bad idea, if I may ask what is it she needs to do there that takes so much time.
If I were you I would out and out asked her to honor your request to be left at the mall and picked up later or you will be unable to go with her "THIS TRIP", she needs to respect your wishes in this matter.
Do not worry yourself about being rude, you have way to much hanging in the balance here to worry about that,How rude is it to your husband to have anything to do with this man who was working toward having a affair with his wife.
It is a matter of PRIORITIES, youe marriage is first on the list, all contact with MM has to totally end to protect your first priority.
Sorry if this sounds pushy but I have been down this road, DON'T GO THERE IT IS NOT WORTH IT.
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well she's a few years older than me and known me since I was little, she was always there for me. My other friends are my husband's friends wives or girlfriends, which makes only 3, but one is in college and always busy, the other 2 have children and work.
Since your friend knows the situation with the OM, you should have the *willpower* to tell her that you can't go with her to his workplace!!!! Seeing him will make things harder than they need to be for you.
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