Mefreenow, please help
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Mefreenow, please help
| Wed, 08-18-2004 - 10:45am |
I value your advice because you seem to be straightforward. Here is my dilemma that is tearing me apart. My X-OM that I told you about has been divorced now for 3 years. He is dating a lady. They have been dating for about a year. I don't know how serious it is. I am afraid to ask. I have told him three times in the last year that I would leave my marriage and I haven't. The last time I told him this was last month and I think that he knew that I was serious, but still, I guess I need to prove to him that I will do it. When I try to discuss this with him, he never says anything. He just lets me talk about leaving my marriage and how much I love him and then all he has ever said is that we will discuss it when I am divorced. He basicly just stands there and lets me rattle on and on about how much I love him and want to be with him. Its like I was content as long as he wasn't dating and now that he is out there living his life, I am about to have a fit because I don't want to lose him. I believe he wants me, but that he is getting tired of my crap and me telling him that I will leave and then I don't. I don't mean to be selfish, but I know that it is. I just want to have plenty of time to end my marriage. It is hard to end 24 years of life with a person, even though I know that I want to be with the OM. I just wonder if he is thinking that if I love him enough I will do what it takes to be with him. I really just want to hear the words out of his mouth. I don't like not knowing what he really wants and if he'll wait for me. I really feel in my heart that this is my last chance to do something. I feel that if I don't prove to him that I want to be with him, that he will move on completely and not be there for me. Should I listen to my instincts and my heart?

I don't think you need to listen to your instincts, OM has told you plainly what he requires of you to even consider a relationship with you, SOUTH either PUT UP OR SHUT UP, no insult intended South but men are a lot like women they can get to the point were they will not be swayed by words anymore and you have to act to prove yourself to them.
If you want him you have to act accordingly and be prepared to take your chances, you may get him you may not, he may not be prepared to lose a sure thing with his G/F to try with you.
One thing is forsure the more you talk a good fight but put off fighting the less credit your going to have with him.
Make up your mind do you risk everything forone last shot at getting him or do you keep what you have.
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