I have come to some decisions

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Registered: 10-02-2003
I have come to some decisions
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Thu, 08-19-2004 - 11:22am
After reading all of yuor posts and much soul-searching and thinking, I have made some decisions. I am going to go through with my divorce because it is what I want, not because of OM. My marriage has been over for awhile, so I am going to go ahead with my life whether I end up with OM or not. I just happen to see him and his girlfirend last night at the store. I could feel him staring a hole right through me. It just made me do more thinking. I need to go on with my plans of whatever I need to do for ME. I am not going to contact OM after my divorce is final. I am not going to go chasing after him. If he loves me and still wants me, he can come to me. He knows how to find me. We work for the same company, so it's not like he can't find me. I have let him know this. I told him because I didn't want him to feel pressured into thinking that I was going to be standing in front of him the day my divorce is final with divorce papers expecting him to start a new life with me. That is not any way to start a relationship. I told him that he would see my divorce in the newspaper when it was final and that is how he will know. The ball is in his court. I am going on with my life. One thing that I forgot to mention about my OM is that he is afraid of me and the feelings that go with me. By that I mean that I am the first woman that has loved him for himself. He has told me this. He always marries women that use him as a meal ticket and then they dump him and move on. He has been burned very badly and I think that he is afraid of really dealing with me and real feelings. Anyway, I am going on with my life and if it is meant to be to work out with OM, then it will happen. It is going to be up to him. I love him very, very much, but I know that I have to move on and then we'll see what happens in time. Thanks to all of you!
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-30-2003
Thu, 08-19-2004 - 3:17pm

Good for you.

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Thu, 08-19-2004 - 3:39pm
South

Sounds GOOD, divorce is a sad thing when it happens so if your doing it you really do want to do it for the right reasons.

Very best to you

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