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need to stay strong?
| Wed, 09-01-2004 - 7:25pm |
Hi,im new here and need some advice/support.Ive been married for 3 years(with my hubby for 9),about 2 years ago i met this guy online and a realtionship started. I didnt feel bad or anything cause i was sure I was leaving my husband.Time went on and i started to care for this guy,he treats me like gold,he is the exact oppsite of my husband(which i think is why i was attracted to him). Ive met this man quite a few times and had inimate realtions with him,but now here i am now,wanting to end it. In fact i did ,as of 2 days ago. I want to be with my husband and concernate on my huband and my children. I know in my heart this man isnt for me,but tonight i find myself wanting him online so i can speak with him,maybe out of bordem i dunno.we've talked everyday since ive ended things,and its abit werid,i want to walk away,cut all ties but i get bored and lonely and there he is again. hes having a hard time dealing with it so i feel bad at the thought of just never speaking again. i need to stay strong and not let thsi man maniulape(sp*) me into going back to him. any thoughts on what route i should take would be apperacited.
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I would suggest that the first thing you do is to remove him from your buddy list if you IM and if you intend to continue to do IM with other people that you change your screen name and were you hang out.
block are close e-mail accounts he knows about.
Go total NO CONTACT starting today, there is no way to get past this if you keep talking to him it just will not work.
If you like the on line life I think you can find boards that are meant for women only or you could consider volunteer groups in your community church or social orgs.
Get busy and stay busy, when you get the urge to go on line, phone or meet get up and go out do something anything but make contact.
Read many posts here and post often yourself, both will hept you.
If this man manipulates you then he is not someone you want to have anything to do with when you need to manipulate someone that tells you that your not an emotionally healthy person, your better off with out such a person in your life.
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Rose please be patient with us and DON'T go away.
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