Random thought..

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Registered: 12-17-2003
Random thought..
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Tue, 09-07-2004 - 1:36pm
I received this thought from a friend from the My Affair Support board. Both her and I are stuggling with the ending of our "relationship" with our MM. I hope it helps someone as it did me..I really benefited from this thought! There is light at the end of the tunnel!!

Hugs

MB


"Yesterday is over.

It is a fact of life that what is old dies to make way for what is new. Endings are often painful - we mourn the death of a relationship, we regret leaving a familiar neighborhood, we don't like to say good-bye.

Endings, though, give us the chance to begin again. A new friend comes in to fill the empty space left when an old friend moves away. A new school, a new job, a new season of the year - these are fresh starts that evolve from what has gone before.

We need not fear the inevitable endings in our lives. Daily, we are renewed. Our bodies produce new cells continually. When we are going through an ending, we may not be able to see the new beginning that lies beyond, but we can trust it will be there for us when we are ready. We can welcome the new opportunities that each day brings and consider them gifts from the Higher Power that is with us to guide us through each end and each beginning.

I will let yesterday end so that today can begin."

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Registered: 08-19-2004
Tue, 09-07-2004 - 1:59pm
VERY good thought melibintx!

I hope you don't mind if I add a couple of my own! 2 things I've ALWAYS treasured and enjoy reading over and over again!

This first one is rather long but if you've never read it - it's SO worth it!

http://serenity.man4.home.att.net/the_awakening.html

here's the other one - VERY GOOD too! :)

In-Between

Sometimes, to get from where we are to where we are going,

we have to be willing to be in-between.

One of the hardest parts of recovery is the concept of letting go

of what is old and familiar, but what we don't want,

and being willing to stand with our hands empty

while we wait for God to fill them.

This may apply to feelings.

We may have been full of hurt and anger.

In some ways, these feelings may have

become comfortably familiar.

When we finally face and relinquish our grief,

we may feel empty for a time.

We are in between pain and the joy

of serenity and acceptance.

Being in-between can apply to relationships.

To prepare ourselves for the new,

we need to first let go of the old.

This can be frightening.

We may feel empty and lost for a time.

We may feel all alone, wondering what is wrong with us

for letting go of the proverbial bird-in-hand,

when there is nothing in the bush.

Being in-between can apply to may areas of life and recovery.

We can be in between jobs, careers, homes, or goals.

We can be in between behaviors as we let go of the old

and are not certain what we will replace it with.

This can apply to behaviors that have protected

and served us well all of our life,

such as caretaking and controlling.

We may have many feelings going on when we're in-between:

spurts of grief about what we have let go of or lost,

and feelings of anxiety, fear, and apprehension

about what's ahead.

These are normal feelings for the in-between place.

Accept them. Feel them. Release them.

Being in-between isn't fun, but it's necessary.

It will not last forever.

It may feel like we're standing still, but we're not.

We're standing at the in-between place.

It's how we get from here to there.

It is not the destination.

We are moving forward, even when we're in-between.

Today, I will accept where I am as the ideal place for me to be.

If I am in-between, I will strive for the faith that this place

is not without purpose, that it is moving toward something good.

~Melody Beattie~

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Registered: 12-17-2003
Tue, 09-07-2004 - 2:40pm
Wow...

Thank you so much for sharing those! I am definitely going to be sharing those with the people close to me!!

Hugs

MB