The Urge Has Passed!

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Registered: 07-08-2003
The Urge Has Passed!
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Tue, 09-07-2004 - 4:44pm
Hello all! I posted last week that I was having some not very good ideas and really wanted to contact my XMM. Well, I woke up on Saturday morning and realized that the urge to contact him had passed, after almost a solid week. How???? I really don't know. I spent the week reaffirming my decision, focusing on my DH's great points, and doing the next thing in front of me; i.e. making dinner when it was time to make dinner. I tried to stay out of my head, not leaving long periods of time when I could sit and think. As much as I didn't want to, I stayed busy and preoccupied. I also prayed alot. I don't think my higher power wants me to live in the grip of all that unsanity, chaos, drama and dishonesty (even though I get a certain thrill out of it!!!!) so I tried to do the right thing. And eventually it passed.

I just wanted to share this for anyone who is struggling not to contact their ex. The urges do pass and you'll come out on the other side just a bit stronger. Love, Mo.

mo 7-18-10

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Registered: 06-28-2004
Tue, 09-07-2004 - 5:06pm
Mo,

You are awesome! This post and your last one have helped me so much this week. THANK YOU!!!!!!! AND congrats!
Love, Lily PG with #1 EDD 11/23 baby
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Registered: 05-02-2004
Wed, 09-08-2004 - 10:52am
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You ROCK! And keep rocking on......I am proud of you!

~True~

 

 

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Wed, 09-08-2004 - 5:35pm
Hey Mo,

Saw your post and havent written here in a while...so wanted to say hello! I havent seen your name on here in a bit which is obviously a good sign. I was surprised to see that you had a little melt down. I figured you were completely on your road to recovery, I have to tell you it made me feel a bit better seeing that I am not the only one who has those really bad days.

My update....we have pretty much ended things but I have been struggling with the NC. We have tried to just email, and then talk once a week just as friends to get our updates on life. Well I seem to be fine and then he may say something that gets under my skin and I turn into psycho chick. My emotions are all over the board and as much as it hurts not to talk to him I think it does more harm talking to him. So many different emotions. He seems to have moved on easier than I, and I hate that! I want him to be miserable. Isnt that awful???

Anyway, I was inspired to hear that you too have some little melt downs but you held strong and just focused on different things so that you wouldnt contact him. Good girl!

Be well. Stay Strong!

Dipss

ps - Katie - if you happen to read this post...i wanted to say hello to you too and see how you were...havent seen you on here either...hoping that is a good sign, anyone hear from Clarice?