I'm having an affair
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I'm having an affair
| Tue, 09-07-2004 - 9:35pm |
with my own husband. I say that because we're seperated and he lives with a woman he had an affair with 2 1/2 years ago. When he's upset instead of turning to her he turns to me, when he wants a shoulder to lean on again he comes to me instead of going to her. When she first moved in with him I stopped having sexual contact with him but continue to talk I know more about what goes on in that house then I probably should. Do I feel guilty about the sexual contact? You bet I do and I'm trying to get the streagnth to take a step back until he decides what it is that will make him happy and stop this roller coaster since its not healthy for either of us or our children. Right now she believes he's her SO while he says he's only playing a role until custody is settled for her children then he'll leave. I am confused, hurt and angry that we've reached this point again in our 13 year marriage and my actions are confusing our children so i have to become stronger and not let my love for him rule what my head is telling me, so if you don't mind I'd like to lurk here for awhile. Thanks

HI Wish, I recall seeing your posts on the debate board.
Your welcome to Lurk as much as you please.
We all have are good days and are bad days as I have been reminded recently, so your going to see people at there best and worse, as your going to discover most people that post here are pretty normal people.
If you want it in my opinion you need to force that man off the fence into openly declaring were he wants to be and leave him no wiggle room because right now he has the best of both worlds.
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