Interesting....Birthday Connections

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Registered: 05-07-2004
Interesting....Birthday Connections
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Wed, 09-08-2004 - 8:33am
I was just wondering if anyone else had looked up their MM's birthday in a book called "The Relationship Book". There is a similar book called "The Birthday Book". (I hope I have the titles right).

Anyway, this book talks about the relationship between people when you look up both birthdays. Since I wondered why I was so obsessed with this person (a couple of years ago) I looked it up. This is what it says about our relationship...

This relationship carries the danger of the unbridled pursuit of pleasure. It can be easily addictive, with the partners unable to get enough of each other or the activities they pursue together in the world. It goes so deep it has difficulty extricating itself.

This high degree of attachment to a person, activity or substance may first be seen as merely habituating or obsessive and only later as outright addictive. Conscious awareness offers the only hope for stopping this process. Sex and love addictions are not at all uncommon.

Although sex is often highly rewarding between these two, it can be obsessive and claiming and can stand directly in the way of a realistic and healthy approach to life.

Friendships are often magnetic and long-lasting, but here too there is a danger of shared drug use. Although enjoyable, such friendships risk being exercises in self-deception, with the partners too readily succumbing to the lure of pleasure and good feelings.

Advice: open your eyes to the truth. Beware of self-deception. Listen to the observations of others. Don’t promote dependencies. Stay objective.

I just wondered if anyone else had looked up their birthdays in this book?

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Registered: 07-31-2004
Wed, 09-08-2004 - 9:08am
I've never heard of the book but would love to know what it says about our birthdays. If I gave you the dates could you look it up, or do you know if they have a website?

brooklynjuliet

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Registered: 05-07-2004
Wed, 09-08-2004 - 9:14am
It's called 'the secret language of relationships' - (the other is 'the secret language of birthdays').

I do not have it, but have looked it up in the bookstore. It's in the Astrology section I think.

The Author is Gary Goldschneider. He has quite a few.