Posiepops, thanks

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Posiepops, thanks
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Thu, 12-09-2004 - 12:40pm
Thank you. I do plan to have that conversation with him. I can probably get him to talk to me if I call him at home. I am not expecting to hear what I want. Maybe you are right. Maybe I am looking at things all wrong. We'll see. Let me ask you one thing that really puzzles me. He knew that I had been unhappy in my marriage and wanted to be with him and when I told him that I was getting a divorce he said, "Yeah right. I don't believe you". He also knew that I got a divorce because I wanted him. I know that he didn't believe that I would do it, but once I started the process, why didn't he just come and tell me that there was no future for us and not to divorce my husband because of him? Why didn't he just tell me that?
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Thu, 12-09-2004 - 1:01pm

Hiya SG,

<<<...but once I started the process, why didn't he just come and tell me that there was no future for us and not to divorce my husband because of him? Why didn't he just tell me that? >>>

No one but exOM can answer that. Put it in perspective, SG. How much does it really matter? Do you regret divorcing your husband? Is your exH a stand-in just in case exOM isn't interested in making a go of it with you?

Putting aside how fair any of this is to your exH, how do you imagine your dating your exH appears to exOM?

Hypothetical here, but if someone claimed they wanted to be with me & only me and that they loved me for who I am and THEN went on to divorce his partner and THEN began dating his ex, well, I'd probably be inclined to believe that he wasn't nearly as done with the marriage as legal documentation might indicate.

Or perhaps he was simply that needy for someone/anyone's attention that it didn't matter who the attention giver was. So maybe I just wasn't that special or unique after all...

Remember that words are cheap, SG. What are your actions telling exOM right now?

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Do it SOON. This has been going on for months!!!

Wishing you strength & peace,
Posie