Thanks Heartcrushd

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Registered: 05-21-2003
Thanks Heartcrushd
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Thu, 12-09-2004 - 3:54pm

Thanks ladies for responding especially you heartcrushed, sounds like our xmm where from the same mold!!!I half expect that my xmm is now scamming on his new secretary, One of my friends works for him and said that there is major flirting going on!!! Of course she has the same M.O. as me, married, kids,unhappy! I just have to take and learn from it and move on cause I know if he didnt leave his wife in the 4 years that we were dating, he isnt gonna leave now for some flirty secretary,(which by the way I guess looks strikingly familiar to me)go figure!

One truly important thing that I have learned though is if they truly love you and want to be with you, they will give up their house, their cars, and their unhappy marriage, Because dosnt love conquer all??? In my case which I see a common thread amongst all of us who have been in A's is He would tell me give me 6 months to get everything in order than we can both make our exits, well I believed him. Here I was distancing myself from my h and saving money aside and going through the motions and 6 months would come up and he always had an excuse i.e Business is bad, wife is sick, then it would be another 6 months of the same roller coaster ride, it took me 4 years, and a
Cadillac Escalade and a 4000sqft home that he bought his wife to realize he wasnt gonna ever leave her!!!!! The guilt I feel for putting my family through such up and down emotions. It makes me rage at my stupidity.
But through you guys I know that I am not alone and thanks for the support
Onthegochick

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Registered: 09-12-2004
Thu, 12-09-2004 - 4:39pm

Hey Onthegochick,

You are so welcome. I think they are all from the same mold. Your post made me think. Maybe we are from the same mold also. It kinda pisses me off all these great ladies here and we are all wasting our energy on some guy who is probably chasing someone else to boost his ego. Thanks for making me smile. It has been a bad day and you have made me feel a little stronger.