Pregnant! Oh He!!

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Registered: 11-30-2004
Pregnant! Oh He!!
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Thu, 12-09-2004 - 7:38pm

I need to rant or scream or cry or......something!

I've been feeling very sickly lately, almost for 2 weeks. Thought it was because of me & OM sorta moving our A toward the friendship thing. He is so back and forth w/ his feelings for me, I thought it would be best.

I am M, OM is single and younger. I have no plans to leave my M and I've made this clear to OM. OM is very much in love w/ me but has a lot of guilt about our A.

Anyway, today a co-worker takes me to the doctor because I passed out at work. Thought it was stress, not-eating right blah blah blah. I'm 8 weeks PREGNANT!!! OMG!!!!

The really funny thing....I had my tubes tied over 9 years ago!

I don't know what to do. 8 weeks ago, me & OM were at it pretty hot & heavy (a lot). Also, I know someone will ask the missed period question but I have a pituitary tumor therefore I NEVER have regular cycles. I have skipped months at a time so that never concerned me!

I don't know what to do. At this point in my life another child is the last thing I expected and I certainly don't know what to tell OM or whether I should tell him at all..

HELP?????

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Registered: 11-09-2004
Thu, 12-09-2004 - 8:34pm

Emerald,

My prayers and thoughts go out to you. What a scary time! Whether you tell him or not, what will your husband think? Will he welcome this child or not? If you love him and want to keep your marriage, maybe you should just assume this is his child...especially since things have not been going well with OM lately.

But you don't have to decide anything today...or this week...or even this month. You've got some time to think it over, see what happens. The main thing is to take care of yourself. Eat. Take vitamins. Get some rest.

Hope you feel some peace tonight.

Newsgal

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Registered: 11-30-2004
Thu, 12-09-2004 - 8:51pm

Thanks! I just had to tell someone! Anyone!

I am a basket of mixed emotions!!!

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Thu, 12-09-2004 - 8:55pm

Emerald

Is there any chance this could be your husbands child, if so you may want to go on that idea and leave OM out of it and end the A because you are pregs with hubbies child.

If not your options seem to be confess to your husband or do you could have a AB, I am not in favor of AB but it is your life and future so your stuck with making the hard decisions.

Not much help, but GOOD LUCK.

Free

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Registered: 11-30-2004
Thu, 12-09-2004 - 9:00pm

I'm 100% the baby belongs to OM. With my medical condition and my age, I am very worried about this for many reasons. My medical condition is the reason I had my tubes tied to begin with.

I have some time & now I have a OB/GYN appt on 12-17.

Wish me luck

Thanks again.

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Registered: 09-12-2004
Thu, 12-09-2004 - 10:42pm

Hi Emerald,

I just wanted to let you know my thoughts are with you. This is a very difficult situation. I can only tell you that you have to do what is best for YOU. Whatever CHOICE you make must come from your heart. Please stay calm and try to relax.

As for me, I would never tell my MM if that happened. I would probably deal with it alone. But that is just me.

Please take care
Heart

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Registered: 11-09-2004
Thu, 12-16-2004 - 11:17pm
Emerald, how are you doing?