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Very curious!!
| Thu, 12-09-2004 - 9:05pm |
I know this is so irrelevant, and I shouldn't really care, but curiosity is killing me. The last time xMM was here, he was telling me that him and W had a discussion about another child. She has always wanted another one. He didn't even want the 2 he has because he already had 2 from a previous marriage. (Howver, he loves the children he didn't want very much and is a great dad.)Anyway, she was ok about him not wanting more and learned to deal with it. But NOW she is pushing him to have another baby. NOW, after everything she just found out about us, why would she want to have another one when she knows they are obviously having problems? He told me he wants a vasectomy because he doesn't trust her on this issue. I know it doesn't matter, but please humor me and tell me what on earth she is thinking???

Pal
She knows that his weakness is his children, he has a hard time leaving them, could he walk away from a new baby ???, also if there making babies together what message does that send to YOU, Actions speak loader then words.
Just my thoughts on the subject
Free
PS: Iif he is on the road to a second divorce he is a real bad risk for a third one if he marries again.
Free,
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He absolutely wants NO more babies. He's made that clear to her (and me)!!! He didn't want the 2 he has with her, but she didn't have any yet, so agreed. (let it be known that he really LOVES his children.) But we know how little his testicles are so I'm sure it didn't take much for her to talk him into it. I guess that means it could be just as easy this time too, huh!! He is obviously having sex with her again though. Weird, cuz we were friends and she always told me she hated sex and they would go months without.
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What's funny is that his first W left him for someone else. (not so funny I guess.)He was completely devasted. And my xH and I are divorced because of him cheating. I was completely devastated. Who'd of thought we would ever be in this position. Never say never I guess.
Pal you know Sir balless will cave on the baby if he stays with her, hes caved on everything else.
Did his wife ever say way she hated haveing sex ?
Makes you wonder way his first wife cheated, you know from your own experience that your husband had reasons wonder what his XW reasons would be.
Curious in KC
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She always said she just had a very low sex drive. Blamed it on hormones and possibly something about her thyroid problems. She would always promise him stuff but never went through with it.
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Good question. Not sure why she cheated, but I know they married cuz she was pregnant at 17 and they married right away. She has been married again, but just left him for someone else too. Talk about dysfunction!!
Tell me again why I want this in my life?
I'm pretty much with Free on this, a new baby is in your face. Quite apart from the "neener-neener-neener" factor, if his wife has recently discovered your affair, then it wouldn't be so unusual to want a child as a method of bringing them closer together and/or making a positive out of something negative.
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Huh? It stands to reason that if you are having unprotected sex then you are TRYING for a baby! If he REALLY didn't want a baby with his wife, he would NOT be having unprotected sex with her. It seems he says lots of things which are fulla horse pucky...
Be glad that you dodged a bullet, Pal. Really. Be very glad.
Wishing you strength & peace,
Posie
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Well put, and I can agree -- from personal experience-- 100 percent. Now, in my situation, the wife found out about us, and soon after, got pregnant with their fourth child. I also think that she knew another baby would clinch his decision to stay. He loves his children very much, despite the fact that he jeapordized their future by becoming involved with me.
But I can also add that my xMM and I continued our affair, in super-secret mode, months after his new baby was BORN. So nothing is set in stone, especially in an affair.
It's in your best interest to get gone, and stay gone. Even if he doesn't want another baby, it doesn't sound like he's putting up much of a fight. I'd bet that his wife gets another baby.
Hopefully that will be a wakeup call for him that will help end your affair permanently.
Jazzdiva