My 1 day of NC is gone

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Registered: 12-10-2004
My 1 day of NC is gone
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Sat, 12-11-2004 - 12:09pm
Damnit...why did I respond? I have to work today. Now I can't breathe. I hate this!!
He text messaged me to see what I'm up to and tell me that he wants to talk. I tell him that I'm not having an easy time with this- I should have just let him wonder. Then he says he wants to talk but feels worse every time we do. I'm so mad!!! I don't want him to feel bad....but I do at the same time. Why shouldn't he feel bad?
I replied and asked him what there was to talk about. And now I wait. I want to throw this phone at the wall and watch it break into a million pieces.
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Registered: 12-28-2003
Sat, 12-11-2004 - 12:16pm

Crissy

Turn the phone off, then monday have the number changed and unlisted.

You may suggest to him that any conversations should include his wife, see if that interests him.

Set your boundries and don't let him cross them with out consequenses.

DEMAND THE RESPECT your intitled to.

JMHO

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Registered: 12-10-2004
Sat, 12-11-2004 - 12:41pm

He TM'd me that it seems that we both feel worse when we communicate. I replied "yes"
Then I said that I guess this is it for a while (I will eventually have to talk to him at work and I want to be friends again someday.) He didn't get it- he said that it WILL be a while...like a couple of hours before he can call me.
I replied that I meant a LONG while as there is really nothing we have to say to each other. I told him that I respected his decision and that I have to deal with this by myself.
It's the last thing I wanted to say...but I feel a little bit better at having the last word.
I will think about changing the number...but the huge step I will be making today will be not to have it on me at all times. I will put it away for the day.

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Sat, 12-11-2004 - 2:12pm
Then do it. Throw it against the wall. Throw it away. That's what I did. I broke my cell phone up and threw it in the trash. And I didn't feel bad for doing so. It was liberating, actually. You can do it!
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Sat, 12-11-2004 - 5:47pm

Cassy

A little trick you can use when your ready to is that anytime you think of him think of him as " FILL IN HIS WIFES NAME" husband, do not think or refer to him by his name, it can really change how you view him.

When your ready try it for a month see what happens.

Good going on leaving the phone home, better then turning it off and having it with you.

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