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Feeling low
| Tue, 12-14-2004 - 12:10am |
Hi,
I have blocked OM and there is NC between us since my letter to him and his response. But I feel pretty low this morning. Is this normal? I thought I was being really strong but its becoming hard to keep being that way. I dont want to back track now, I want to stick to my decision. Now what? How long does this go on? Days, weeks, months?
Trish
I have blocked OM and there is NC between us since my letter to him and his response. But I feel pretty low this morning. Is this normal? I thought I was being really strong but its becoming hard to keep being that way. I dont want to back track now, I want to stick to my decision. Now what? How long does this go on? Days, weeks, months?
Trish

Trish
I will come and go, for most it starts to improve fairly steadly after about 3 weeks, don't cave or your going to set yourself back to square one again.
Come on you can do this, you need to do this or risk destroying your family for NOTHING.
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Free
My husband being out of town, I would have met up with OM had we been together and its taking all i have got not to think about that. I know I will never call him over, I am strong enough for that, but the thought comes into my mind - what was, what would have been , etc...
Just a phase , yes i know that I will get through it just fine
Thanks for replyng to my post as always, was waiting for your reply.
Wonder where Posie is I miss her..
Trish
There are stages that you are going to go through when doing NC. Different emotions are normal. Nobody said it was easy, for some it is the hardest thing that they ever did in their lives.
I made the decision to implement NC, but that doesn't mean that it is easy. Nights are especially hard as I am tempted to call him then....sometimes I just want to make his phone ring....a sort of "message". So far I have been pretty successful.
I don't know how long it takes to get over this kind of broken heart, you hear different things from different people. Some women claim to be "over it" in six months, someone told me it took her four years.
I don't know if I'll ever speak to XOM again....I know that NC allows me to see the "big picture" so when I do see him I won't succumb to the same song and dance.
I am not going to tell you that I am happy, but I will say that I feel this strange sense of peace...something that i haven't felt in a long time because I felt confused about leaving H and breaking up my family for XOM. Now I can make decisions for me, take my time about what is best for me and my children....not feel pressured to do something because I want to run off with a man that most probably is not worthy of me.
If we love our XOM/XMM there is no way to do NC and it not hurt. Hang in there Trish, you won't die from this I promise,even though at times it feels like it.
Jazzdiva
No advice for you Trish,
Just wanted to say that Free and Posie are my favorites on this board too. They have helped me more than anything and I always appreciate the great advice they give. (Even if I don't always take it)I'm learning though!!!!
Hope you're feeling better soon!!!
Hi She
Thanks so much for replying to my post. I feel better after reading all the positive support from all my friends here. I used to be so alone in my own little world of the A, but now I am surrounded by others, helping me through and that is why I KNOW that I will surviv it :-)
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I am feeling this exact same way, though yesterday was one of those days when i was just teary and upset most of the day... But that sense of relief that I dont ever have to fight him, argue with him, beg him, put up with his moods... That independence to do as I please and get on with my life.
Hugs and best wishes for you and your children. I know that you will make the correct decisions now that he is not there to blind your vision to the future..
Take care
Trish
Hope things are going well for you. I am going through the usual ups and downs, yesterday was the worst as you saw from this post thread of mine, but I am much better today with all the support i have got.
Yes Posie and Free.. always here for us
But wehre is Posie??? i havent heard from her in a while, i hope she is ok...
Trish
Hiya Trish & Pal,
No need to be worrying over me, you two LOL. I'm fortunate in that I work from my home pc during the days but the nights when it's quiet while I'm on-call until the wee hours are generally the times I'm really able to get stuck into the boards. Don't forget I'm as little as 5hrs and as much as 7hrs ahead of you there in the US!
Just as we're all doing, I'm also finding my own balance for posting/needing to post and work/preparing for the holidays!
Wishing you both strength & peace,
Posie
Good to hear from you, I myself am not in the US... 11 hours ahead of them I would say..
:-)
Trish