Follow-up to my post of the 19th

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Registered: 04-12-2003
Follow-up to my post of the 19th
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Tue, 12-21-2004 - 11:10pm

For anyone who followed my post from the 19th.... I have had no contact with him. I have had quite a few hangup phone calls though and they are bothersome. I think about him almost all the time, but I know that it is over and this is the only healthy thing to do. I am hoping that, by me not taking the bait and sending the "stop the calls" email, he will get it and stop these silly phone calls. This man is in his early 50's and I cannot believe that he is doing this. Of course, when I have asked about it in the past, I was told that he would never do that. Funny, how these calls only happen when we are not speaking.

I have managed to keep myself busy and I know that, with time, I will heal. I do hope the same for him. Although I would love that he live as a hermit, I know that will never happen and his divorce will supposedly be final soon. I do hope he gets out and dates and maybe meets someone. The relationship we had will never go anywhere as it was built on very shaky ground. I would never wish him ill will, but we both must move forward.

I have continued to read and follow other posts and they have given me strength to keep my resolve this time.

Thank you all.

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Wed, 12-22-2004 - 1:31pm

You sound so strong. Good for you! The hang ups at this point would probably make me feel like atleast I was missed a bit...I know that sounds crazy...I initiated NC but I want him to call and hang up. I'm a sick puppy.

Well, good luck to you. It is so gracious of you to wish that he meet someone. I"m not at that point yet, I can't wish XOM happiness. I'm so petty, I want him to get hit by a bus, or atleast have him trip on a sewer cap. (does that only happen in NYC?)

Good luck to you and thanks for sharing your strong vibes with us.

Jazzdiva

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Registered: 04-12-2003
Wed, 12-22-2004 - 1:56pm

Don't get me wrong, I am a little flattered (in a sick sort of way) that he is doing this. Up until now, that was his way of getting me to send a message to him and then before you knew it, we were back in this with the constant phone calls (all one-sided). I never called his house, nor would I. I would not call his cell either after he moved back.

I do hope that one day he does meet someone and that he learned from our experience, what NOT to do in a relationship.

Much of the strength I have comes from this board, the people here and your experiences. I am not alone and grateful for this outlet.

Oh, and got those sewer caps here too!