nothing is ever as it seems

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Registered: 12-19-2004
nothing is ever as it seems
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Tue, 12-28-2004 - 11:08pm
I posted for the first few times about a week or so ago. I have been trying very hard to take the advice and get out. No, I havent found a new job as of yet. I am confused about something tho. What makes the man you having an A with decide that he needs to give DH ideas on how I prefer sex, What I want for Xmas,and the biggest one was that he told my husband that he needs to be up at the hospital when I have this surgery coming up??? My DH didnt say that he is being given advice, but the behavior and words coming from his mouth are not his. Sometime last week MM told me that DH will be at the hospital. Anyway, back to the question. I am in the process of getting out, as far as I know MM does not care for me but sexually. Is he tring to control things? He has not mentioned he has talked to DH. Somehow I thought getting out of this was going to be easier than this. I hate mind games and I feel like Im a pawn in a chess match. CK
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Registered: 12-28-2003
Tue, 12-28-2004 - 11:57pm

BB

Your story was a little confusing but it sounds like XMM is NUTS NUTS NUTS, does that sound possible to you.

Your XMM is lucky my DH is not your DH or he would have ended up in a shallow grave in the woods if he told him what I like in bed.

Maybe you should over to tell XMMs wife what he likes in bed and see how he takes that, he may decide backing off is a better idea then sticking his nose were it don't belong.

BB he cannot force you to have one thing to do with him, he has as much to hide as you do, when you say its over its over and there is not thing one he can do about it and that includes being involved in your medical procedure.

He has no power in your life that you do not give him.

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Registered: 12-19-2004
Wed, 12-29-2004 - 9:21pm
Good point. I know I give him too much power. I am slowly giving him less. I guess I just dont get the thinking they have. All they want is a good lay. When we start enpowering ourselves and getting out, then they interfere. Is all male kind this slimey?? Is there just a normal , sweet, man out here that is as he seems??? All I wanted was someone who cared more for me than my DH{ who is cold and remote at best}. Now what I have is just loads of double the trouble. I have started telling him that what goes on in my life is NONE of his buisness!! He appears to back down and then I hear things that he butted in again. UGH!! Thanx cK
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Registered: 12-28-2003
Thu, 12-30-2004 - 1:30am

BB YES there normal sweet guys out there, BUT there the ones that will not get involved with a married woman.

There were a couple of links floating around leading to some sites on Narrsisits (forgive the spelling), you would most likely see XMM in the information given.

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