His wife called me last night????

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Registered: 12-15-2004
His wife called me last night????
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Thu, 12-30-2004 - 11:26am
Im pregnant by a married man I didnt know he was married. When I was 2 months I found out about her and the newborn baby. Which was only 2 months also..Im now almost 4 months and he hasnt been to responsible about anything. But she did call me last night to ask me if he was with me for Christmas???But the question is why wasnt he with her???I dont understand why she calls me cause she doesnt believe me anyways. But I answer all her questions honestly??Im 21 and shes 24 so I think I should be the better woman and tell her the deal... I reall y dont care hwta he says to her about me as long as he respects me and doesnt yell or call me a liar what she says that he says doesnt mean s***..But I just dont understand why she was so worried about him bieng with me for Christmas arent they married ..Well I dont know what to do??I just have to wait till my babby boo is born to show her who was lying all along/???What should I do if she calls again ????
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Registered: 08-02-2000
Thu, 12-30-2004 - 11:38am

Gloria,

Treat her with the respect she deserves being the betrayed one. If she gets angry towards you, have patience and understanding. You were, afterall, sleeping with her husband. Even though you didn't know it. She is the injured one here. You are, too, but especially her because he didn't make a vow to be faithful to you, but he did to her. Be the better woman, as you say. You'll feel so much better about yourself for doing so.

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Registered: 12-15-2004
Thu, 12-30-2004 - 11:44am
Im tring my best believe me. Im not to nice when it comes to things like this maybe thats why he doesnt say anything to me.. But I just hate when she says that Im lying but yet shes calling me to find out things?>>But I guess I have to deall with it and be the bigger woman...Take care GLoria..
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Registered: 12-27-2004
Thu, 12-30-2004 - 1:07pm

Maybe I'm a little dense but

MS
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Registered: 12-15-2004
Thu, 12-30-2004 - 1:39pm
well Im not angry at her at all. I just dont understand why she is calling me and asking me questions when she is married to him. They made a vow and it wasnt with me so why call me if what I have to say isnt important...Thats all Im not to worried about him righ tnow Im jsut making sure he doesnt feel like this is over cause is just the beginning , but hey thats life ///And if ths is what was for me then Im here to deal with it like a woman...But sh ewont be playing any role in my babies life so I dont know why shes so interested in what I have to say..But i know she must be miserable...