Well I did it

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-19-2004
Well I did it
3
Thu, 12-30-2004 - 10:18pm

Here is the email I sent MM today after he called and I did not pick up

I am done! I want this to end and need you not to contact me anymore. You really disappoint me.

I feel good now.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2003
In reply to: adp03
Fri, 12-31-2004 - 12:28am

Adp

Short and to the point thats for sure and it does not leave much room to wiggle either, WELL DONE.

Now it's time to close any channels of communications you can block or close e-mail abouts he knows of have your phone company block calls from all his numbers you know about were possible change numbers and have them unlisted, chang IM names and remove him from your buddy list, dispose of any affair related items you have.

These are only suggestions but they have been proven to help if implemented.

Stay strong.

Free

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-27-2004
In reply to: adp03
Fri, 12-31-2004 - 4:31am

Good for you for making the decision and standing firm.

MS
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-03-2004
In reply to: adp03
Mon, 01-03-2005 - 7:43am

HI Adp

Your "ending affir" mail sounds really really good. It will be very difficult for him to try and contact you now and even if he does he will be thinking of ways and means of doing so because you have made it so clear and have not given him any space to get in.. Yes I am sure you feel good, I also felt great once I sent my xOM the ending mail. It was like a sense of relief going through me.

Now most importantly, what you have to do is to keep total no contact .. I did so and today, about 3 weeks post break up, I feel better than I have in a long time. Trust me on this one NO CONTACT is the best way..I used this same advice from many friends here on this board and now things are looking up..

Take care
Trish