Embarassed

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Embarassed
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Sat, 01-01-2005 - 9:34pm

Oh dear! Well last night I went to a neighbourhood party where OM was going to be. I was a little nervous and somehow during the day had a terrible headache. I took some migraine medicine and had a rest. The medication usually knocks me out, and so ofcourse I've never had a drink while taking it before. Anyway, I got up to go to the party, had 2 glasses of wine while getting ready to 'get in a festive mood', and off DH and I went to the party.

Unfortunately the medication and the drinks didn't mix too well and I think I came across as totally drunk to many people. I can't even remember parts of the evening. I don't think I spoke much to OM but he would have seen how I was as it was a fairly small group - 20 or so.

I feel like such a loser. OM doesn't drink much and I don't think he thinks much of people who do. I guess my question is, the next time I run into him should I not even mention it. What if he brings it up? What kind of damage control do I do with my other friends? Basically, what will make this cloud float away the quickest???

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Registered: 12-28-2003
In reply to: crystal_clr
Sun, 01-02-2005 - 1:59am

Silence and sobriety.

There is ZERO reason for you to be making any explanations to XMM, the only man who has a right or need to know what happened is your husband.

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Registered: 12-27-2004
In reply to: crystal_clr
Sun, 01-02-2005 - 5:12am
I agree that silence is best unless someone makes a comment, then you could explain. Hope you're feeling better.

MS
A man's got to do what a man's got to do.
A woman must do what he can't.

MS
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Registered: 07-23-2004
In reply to: crystal_clr
Sun, 01-02-2005 - 2:08pm
Why do you care what OM thinks? He is the past and your H is the present and the future. Free is correct in that the only explanation owed is to H. Perhaps you need to prevent contact with OP.
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Sun, 01-02-2005 - 2:18pm
Actually H thinks I wasn't really that bad, but everyone else I've run into has thought I was totally bombed. Its just embarassing. I know I shouldn't really care about OM and what he things, but I do. The fact that he's probably thinking what a loser - thank goodness we broke up, does hurt. I suppose its the same thing as if you ran into an old boyfriend or even friend and you looked like crap - its not the way you want to be thought of. I'm equally embarassed that my friends saw me like that too - they don't drink much - actually I usually don't drink a lot myself. I just feel really bad about it all. I don't know if I should laugh it off when people tease me or what...
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Registered: 03-25-2003
In reply to: crystal_clr
Sun, 01-02-2005 - 2:51pm

XOM is an "x", remember? That means NO explanation to him for any reason.


And no conversation, either......


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Registered: 06-02-2004
In reply to: crystal_clr
Sun, 01-02-2005 - 3:49pm
you dont owe anyone an explanation. if you feel you must say something when asked, just keep your dignity. If you do, they will see it and not think bad of you. Be honest and brief by saying that the medication you took didn't mix well with the glass of wine. done. if someone wants to continue the discussion, simply refuse.
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Registered: 07-18-2004
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Sun, 01-02-2005 - 5:02pm

If your friends are really your FRIENDS, they know you and this one little thing isn't going to matter. If these people are just your neighbors, but you've lived in the neighborhood for a long time -- they know you and this one little thing isn't going to matter. But, yeah, I can see why you're embarrassed. Oh well, we don't do everything 'right' all the time. It's called 'being human.' As for what XOM thought -- it doesn't matter one bit. I understand -- I really do -- but what he thought/thinks just doesn't matter because he's not part of your life.

god, is this man a neighbor? A coworker? Do you have to associate with him?? I NEVER have to be afraid of even running into XMM. I can't imagine what it must be like for those of you who can't avoid contact. I don't know what I would do if my XMM were a neighbor or a coworker. You all have my admiration: You're A LOT stronger than I will ever be.

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Sun, 01-02-2005 - 7:32pm

He lives across the street. It has been terrible at times (when I've been really hurting I can remember peering out the window watching him like a stalker), but for the most part I'm over that. I think I'm finally 'getting it'. Hard pill to swallow though - his sweet words went down a lot easier, but they always left me with such a stomache ache!!!

Thanks for your messages all - they really helped!!!!