Calling all newbies and lurkers
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Calling all newbies and lurkers
| Fri, 03-12-2010 - 7:45am |
Dear Enders,
Reading through the posts this morning I spotted a couple of lurkers that have come out of hiding. We would love to hear your stories and if you are not ready yet to post them, how about at least introducing yourself to the board.
For all the newbies,, I would like you to post in too. Tell us a little bit about yourself, your interests, if you are M or S, how many children you have , and how long you have been out of your A now.
TIA and ((hugs))

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Thanks for posting this Iddy. It's getting hard to keep everyone straight. I might have to start a spreadsheet or something :)
I am Jane. I have been M to a wonderful DH for almost 8 years. We do not have kids, unless you count our 2 wonderful doggies- who we treat much better than we would our kids, probably. :) My A lasted about a year before I ended it for good (after several failed attempts) and I have been NC/LC 43 days today!!!! If not for this board, I would not have made it this far. I spend a lot of time journaling and writing about my experience as a way to heal. I do have a blog, which I posted on another thread as well, but here is the address again: http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/ There are a handful of women, not from this board, who have stumbled upon it and we now converse via email. It's very therapeutic to talk to others who are going through the same thing.
Edited 3/12/2010 8:11 am ET by secretlifeofjane28
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Ok..well, I was in the A for 3 months. Not long, but long enough to do plenty of damage. I am D but live with my SO. I have a DS.
I am back at the drawing board (ughh) of NC for 2 days.
I know it has been said a thousand and one times, but this board is truly a life support system and an awesome intervention. The amazing people on this board have helped me in so many ways, I can't thank everyone enough :)
RG
I am mostly a lurker but have posted a few times too. I am M to a wonderful DH for almost 12 years. I have a soon to be 9 year old adorable DS.
I was in a EA with a co worker who is 5 years younger to me. I think I am the only one in the board who was in a what feels like one sided affair. Till date he does'nt acknoledge the fact that we were anything more than friends. For me, he began to mean more and more and I was constantly thinking of him. So, gradually it became increasingly difficult for me to communicate with him in a 'friend' level.
I have posted here once before but am a frequent lurker.
Never,
Welcome to endings and you just did yourself a big favor by coming out of lurkdon. Once we get it out there our burdens are already beginning to lift. The people on this board are very supportive and we would all like to help you succeed with NC. If you have already made it once to 7 days, you can surpass this, but you are going to have to do the work on your end. You sound absolutely miserable in the A, so you already know that this is not how you want to continue living.
I hope you are reading the Healing Library and if not, get busy. ;-) It's not that hard to get through the first few days of NC, but what
~Iddy~
Thanks for the response....I started crying just reading your response because I have had no one to talk to about this...i am so ashamed.
pretty new here
I'm 46 year old male (seem to be in a bit of a minority) am married with 3 kids-
13 year old boy (who happens to have be have Aspergers Syndrome- very high funtioning autism) a 10 year old boy and an 8 year old girl
never thought I would be here-
married 17 years, it has allways been a low intimacy marriage.
hi all,
im a newbie here again but not a newbie as such,
my affair went on for 4 yrs on and off (mostly off) and after we had a new liason in jan / feb am back to no contact.
I was no contact since last feb - until this Jan and yes i fell for it again......
I have spent weeks trying to get my act together and my head and i feel like i am now getting there.... i have read and read and read this board and have taken in all of the information given to me.
The one thing that i
I'm still a newbie, but as of 3/23/10 that will change, because 3/23 marks 3 months NC (very LC at work only) for me!
I am M, had 3-year A with a MM which took me 3 attempts to finally end.
I'm slowly getting accustomed to the lingo....yes I'm a newbie....I also am a MW who was involved with a MW. I say married since it's what everyone relates to...although it isn't legal...it is nonetheless just as committed...we have families...financial commitments...you name it...we have it.
I was involved for a little over a year....tried to break it off more times
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